No feelings?

whatislove · Nov 27, 2009, 01:43 PM

Ok, it has almost been 20 days. And . I tried to do NC, but then she texted. And we texted and talked on MSN everyday since, like before...
And we even agreed that we would meet up, but of course that did not fall through, and I'm kind of hurt.
I feel like I should do NC, but I still can't let go
I don't think she wants to either, but who knows what is on her mind.

Devorameira · Nov 27, 2009, 01:54 PM

Sorry to hear about your being dumped. The best thing you can do is to move on with your life. Don't contact her at all (no e-mail, calls, or texts).

Go out with your friends, go out on a date, and have a good tme. Maybe once she sees that you are doing great without her and thinks you're moving along without her, she'll change her mind.

Good luck!

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bjohnrupp · Nov 27, 2009, 05:13 PM

Hey whatislove----its been 3 1/2 months for me and for 6 weeks I did no contact but like you we talked on Yahoo I'm and texted and my ex also stood me up a few weeks ago after she said she wanted to meet up!

So the reason are ex'es do this to us is because we are no longer important to them- we are ex'es. They don't care about making time with us or anything. The only reason they contact us is to relieve their own guilt.

So don't talk to her ever again! Don't talk to her on MSN and don't answer her texts. She's not worthy of that from you- don't help her out. Just stay NC and you'll start to heal.

talaniman · Nov 27, 2009, 05:35 PM

I would be busy doing my own thing, and less available for her thing, no matter what that may be.

Don't have your own thing to do? You can solve that by finding it now. No need to be miserable, its a really big world out there, and many interesting people.

whatislove · Nov 27, 2009, 07:10 PM

Sooo
Talked to her
And got a clear signal that everythings over.
Great. Maybe that is the only escape.
I realize that I'm really young ever since day 1, as days passed by, I feel less pain. Maybe our relationship is slowly turning into friendship? I don't know, perhaps? Anyways, ill implement NC if I see fit, but for now, I don't see why I would cut her off. Thanks for everyone's advice

paxe · Nov 27, 2009, 09:44 PM

You cut her off so that you become better and that you don't give yourself false hope. If you don't apply NC it may take a long time before you become better.

whatislove · Nov 27, 2009, 10:19 PM

Well, I mean we are sitll friends after all. I don't want to simply lose a friend.
I don't know... =/

amicon · Nov 28, 2009, 12:53 AM

How you handle it is up to you is your choice of course- but ask yourself if you're really ready to be friends?

talaniman · Nov 28, 2009, 06:08 AM

So if she dates someone else, what does that do to the friendship?

What if she has no more time for friends because she has another romantic interest?

whatislove · Nov 28, 2009, 10:43 AM

Well then she will have no time for friends. I'm not friends with her because I'm holding on, its just because I don't want to lose her as a friend.
I know, its contridicting.. :S

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