 | | | New relationship, pregnancy, girlfriend being distant
Asked Aug 21, 2008, 09:46 AM
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20 Answers Hello all,
Ok, so I met this girl 2 months ago and immediatley we clicked big time. I tried to not get attatched, as I just got out of a long relationship in december and really did not want to get into a relationship, but things just felt really good with her and everything happened so fast and I fell for her reallly hard. Anyways, a few weeks ago we found out she is pregnant. Aside from me being really scared about the fact of having a kid and everything I think I'm doing pretty well about it. However, things seem to have changed a lot and it's given me this constant uneasy feeling. We went from seeing each other everyday and everything being completley great and her wanting me to stay with her at night, whereas now I see her maybe a couple times a week, she hasn't wanted me staying with her. I don't feel any excitement from her about spending time with me anymore. Basically I just get weird vibes from her latley and she hasn't been talking to me about stuff really. She made her first dr. Appointment and didn't tell me about it until I asked her. I understand she is scared and everything happened very fast with us and maybe now it's catching up, and obviously she is going through a lot.
I am just afraid of getting hurt again and I don't know what to do.
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Aug 21, 2008, 09:57 AM
| | | Stand up...that's all I can say. Do your best to support her during this difficult time and be understanding. She needs a support system...understand though, she may not come to you for a lot of things. Women that are pregnant sometimes start to think differently, and their emotions are going crazy. Just let her know that you're there for her. You need to be strong for her during this time. Don't think about walking away, she doesn't need that and neither do you. | | |  | Senior Family & People Expert | |
Aug 21, 2008, 10:12 AM
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I am just afraid of getting hurt again and I don't know what to do.
| Geez guy, she is pregnant! She may be more than a little distracted, as she has a life changing event to deal with. This is not the time to be selfish, as if your scared, she is petrified!
You better be supportive, and forget what you want as whatever it is, she don't need it. Put aside your own needs, and fears, and consider hers. | | |  | Ultra Member | |
Aug 21, 2008, 10:33 AM
| | | Spread the rep again, but Tal said it perfectly and bluntly as well! | | | | Junior Member | |
Sep 2, 2008, 09:48 AM
| | | I just don't know what to do right now. I haven't seen her in over a week and really don't think that she feels as strongly as I do about her. My emotions are overloaded right now, she hasn't expressed any interest in seeing me for a couple weeks, and I just don't get it I guess. She tells me that she will be getting an untrasound tommorrow and didn't say anything to me about going to the doctor with her. I don't know whether to shut off my feelings or to try as hard as I can to be close with her again, but then at the same time, I don't want to have to deal with loving someone so much and it not being mutual. I just have no idea, everything was so good before we found out about the pregnany | | | | Senior Family & People Expert | |
Sep 2, 2008, 12:05 PM
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Tape your mouth shut, put your feelings in your back pocket, and be there whatever she needs. She may cuss you out, so what, its your kid too, so man up, and don't take it so personal when she vents her frustrations, and fears right on you, just sit there and take it, and see if she wants more pickles, or whatever. Quote: |
Everything was so good before we found out about the pregnancy
| Pay attention, and learn, as this is a life lesson for you, and you will pay for your pleasure. | | | | Junior Member | |
Sep 2, 2008, 12:08 PM
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Originally Posted by talaniman Tape your mouth shut, put your feelings in your back pocket, and be there whatever she needs. She may cuss you out, so what, its your kid too, so man up, and don't take it so personal when she vents her frustrations, and fears right on you, just sit there and take it, and see if she wants more pickles, or whatever.
Pay attention, and learn, as this is a life lesson for you, and you will pay for your pleasure. |
I don't think you are understanding, I haven't seen her in over a week and a half, and hardly talked to her, I wish she was venting her frustrations and fears on m, but nothing. | | |  | Junior Member | |
Sep 2, 2008, 12:14 PM
| | | Tal - Tape you mouth shut... LOL, knee slapper. Very well put! | | | | Senior Family & People Expert | |
Sep 2, 2008, 12:30 PM
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Originally Posted by headache I don't think you are understanding, I haven't seen her in over a week and a half, and hardly talked to her, I wish she was venting her frustrations and fears on m, but nothing. | And you need an invitation? Get over there, and make youself useful. | | | | Junior Member | |
Sep 2, 2008, 12:43 PM
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Originally Posted by talaniman And you need an invitation? Get over there, and make youself useful. | Unfortunatley yes I do. Like I said, things have been completley different since we found out about this, , she has taken a big step back and has showed no interest in seeing me, before I was staying with her every night and seeing her everyday | | |
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