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Ok, I ahve been talking to "the new girl" in my life (sorta) for about two weeks now, and we pretty much talked everyday. She lives in California and is a pretty busy girl. Everything seemed to be going goo, getting to know eachother better, laughing, all the good stuff, then *poof* I havent heard squat from her in about 5 days. I know she is busy and all, but I just think its wierd that we went from talking all the time to nothing. Am i looking too much into this, or should I just back off and let her contact me now? Im not trying to start a relationship with her right now or anyhting, but I really like tlaking with her, and just getting to know her. I would call, but I dont want to come off as pushy or needy. I guess if I dont hear anyhting from her by next week I will shoot her a call. Advice here?
It could be as you said that she is just really busy right now !! As you said she leads a busy life... I think you should try and give her a call or maybe leave a voicemail or someting... And then I would leave it too see if she called you back.
If you have both been talking for a while I think you would have got the idear from her if she wanted you to back off, just call, come on what you got to lose nothing so its worth a try if you wana be friends with her
Good to see you out and about Jeff,Hey after 5 days a phone call is in order just to check things out and leave a short message if you have too,then wait and see if she calls you back!
I agree with you guys. I think I need to stop questioning what I am doing, and "just do it"tm. I will wait it out until monday I guess, then call her butt up! I have this thing with women now called "the 2 week rule". I pretty much understand that women run on emotions alot, and they can change in the blink of an eye, so I give them 2 weeks to come around, or I give em the AXE! HAHAHAHAHA! Im soooooo lovin life right now!!!
Hahahaha! Yea, Ive known this girl for a LONG time, about 8 years. She went to my HS and we both liked eachother, but were involved with other people. I have hung out with this gilr about 1000 times. Its just a wierd situation now that she is so far away. I have never been one to get myself all worked up about someone that I have no way of dating (for now). that would be WIERD to meet a girl online..........................
LMAO... youd be surprised!! When i first read your post, i assumed it was a girl you met online since you are both far apart and she is your "new girl." So i was thinking... [SIZE="1"]psycho!!![/SIZE] lol
But yeah, if you have known this girl for sometime, it seems that she wouldnt likely just blow you off. It is difficult staying in close contact with someone so far away on a consistant basis. My guess is that life is catching up with her. Give it a few days and give her a call. MY ADVICE: dont say ANYTHING about why she hasnt called or contacted you. Simply say hi and that you just wanted to give her a call and see hows shes been. You want to be interested in her life but not overly obsessed with her wondering why 5 days has passed and she hasnt called. Remember... you have a life, too and you are a busy guy, too. Maybe even go as far as saying "sorry for not getting in touch with you sooner... i wouldnt want you to worry, ive just been busy"
I have been there many times, met a guy, started getting to know them, talking & hanging out lots, really starting to like them, then nothing. Each time I waited for them to contact me, most of them didn't; so I knew they were not really interested. However a couple did. It on;ly resulted in friendship but they are still in touch today on and off - when they have some time to spare.
Just be patient and wait for her to contact you. If it goes weeks then send her a message just asking if everything is Ok? and see if she responds.
I wait over a week....BUT, I would advise giving her one last contact - and just one - call/vvoice mail - e-mail - NO TEXT.
No presure, no neediness.
just - "Hi it's Jeff, wanted to say hi and see what's going on with you, I know you're a busy gal (give her an excuse wh yshe hasn't called you - make it her idea), anyway take care"
SHort and simple, no presure!!!!! Women HATE presure.
Do NOT say give me a call!
Do NOT say lets make plans OR lets hang out etc!!!!!!
COOL! I just heard from her!!! She sent me a message, and like I thought, she has been BUSY. I feel like a little girl or something!!! LOL! She has been trying to get a job at Lockheed Martin in California, so she has been pretty stressed out lately too. That is one of the things I find SO attractive about this woman, she has goals in life and works HARD. I am so used to these "bar chicks" that all they do is drink and party......over it. I think I will wait until tomorrow to respond to her, just to make her wonder what I am up to! LOL! thanks for the advice guys, I will keep you posted on the details........ I have some pretty juicy stuff sometimes!!!
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