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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
I'm right there with you......we started this whole "break" thing on the 8th. She called everyday for a week since. Then nothing.......a couple of days would go by and she would initiate contact again. Now we are on 3 days with NC..........it used to be really hard in the beginning but it gets easier with time. I still love her, but I do not like the games she is playing.......
I'm on day 16 of NC. The first 2 weeks I was starting to feel pretty good. The past couple of days have been a little rough though...but the last thing I want to do is start the whole cycle over again so I'm not calling....EVER! Haha...no my goal is 55 days (i know its a random #). And after 55 days I figure I won't want to ever talk to him again anyway.
ConfusedandLost, good for you!! Lucky that she calls you, I guess it gives you some boost to your self-esteem?
Does she calls to just say hi, or want to be back?
Suelle, that's great!! I envy you. I hope I can reach day number 16.. actually I wonder what might happen in 16 days!
Night is close and things are getting tough here but still holding.. hope I feel better soon
HI
I'm on the 34th day of no contact and somedays are ok but most days are bad I miss him so much still. I don't know if its because I didn't see the breakup coming or what I guess i'm actually still in SHOCK!! He does'nt even try to contact me either. I just wish I knew how long its going to take before I feel better.
Keep it up!! This is great! You crossed a real long way!! You're a tough girl, it's his loss without a doubt.
I guess we all didn't see it coming and it's the schock that's making it real hard to even accept the situation.
I wonder about the same thing too.. I mean, I really want to get back on track and do the things I used to do and I gave hope on having her back.. but I just want to move on, yet all I feel is this "dizziness". Anyone feels this too? I still can't feel like doing anything.
Or maybe because we deeply expect them to call us during the NC period that we can't really get over it 100% ?
Anytime I miss him, I just remind myself that he's not the same person he used to be or the person I thought he was so what's the point in calling him? It will only make things worse....and frankly, he doesn't deserve my time or energy...let them keep guessing forever...they don't know that you're sitting here thinking about them 24 hours a day..the only way they'll know that is if you call them and tell them...you want to NOT call them so they can start to wonder what the heck you're up to.
I don't know, they all seem to never care to call or anything.. so I guess they don't even wonder about what we're doing nor even wish to know. And when you think of it, it's real hilarious.. I mean, just 2 month ago, before she traveled she used to go crazy to know what I'm doing every hour.. just like she did the whole past 5 years.. but now, she cares not. I guess it was the same with you (?).
He kept calling me for a month after we broke up and I finally just told him to stop and leave me alone. I didn't want to be friends. I told him when and if I want to talk to you, I'll call. After 3 1/2 years and 2 years of living together, you can't just suddenly become friends. So, I decided I had to go cold turkey and just the cut the cord.
I know he must wonder about me sometimes. We were very close and did everything together. I have to think that when you spend 7 years living together and sharing everyday that the memories and thoughts of each other just don't go away over night. My reasons for N/C are #1 so maybe I will eventually start to heal. #2 So he can have space to realize that what we had doesn't come along that often. #3 If he does still love me than he needs to figure that out on his own and not by me calling him to try to convince him that he does.
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