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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
Your not alone my friend...I would get back with my ex in a heartbeat..of course only after we talk out our issues because if we just jump back into things, it would just happen again. Like you, I just know she still loves me and is enjoying the freedom with her friends right now..But it will hit her after awhile of NC..I still have hope
Nearly everybody on here want their ex back myself included...but each situation is different and the people that are further down the line can see more clearly what might happen so they give you the best advice to protect yourself from being hurt. we wear all in your situation but in three months on from where you are and i felt the same way you did at your stage!
I want my ex back so theres two but im just being practical and trying to move on
I agree I also want my ex back but there is a catch that u will learn later what is the expense? If it means the same situation I walked away from them no I dont want her back if it means she has changed and is working to improve the things that were lacking I will be more then happy to listen but as allot of people have stated dont be a door mat they didnt meet a door mat. I myself can say I became a door mat when I allowed the relationship to become unbalanced and it was all about her and not us. Be careful!
See, me on the otherhand is the one that needs to change my jealous ways. Which I am taking several steps to do so. So I would actually show her that I mean what I say this time(i have said I would change before, but did for 2 weeks then went back to my old self) If she were to call and say we should work things out,I would say we need to work our problems out before we do anything. That's what love is, working through problems not sweeping them under the rug
I agree totally with what you said relationships are hard to keep together especially if youve been together a long time, you have to work extra hard to keep some spark....but even if your ex doesnt come back, im not saying she wont but if she didnt your still a better person than you were in the relationship so your a better person with or without her for the rest of your life
Exactly. I actually wrote her a long letter last week apologizing to her for how I treated her and to thank her for showing me the error of my ways and basically showing me I need to change or I will end up alone which was true. So I am out to change to better myself. No matter what happens I'm going to be stronger than I was before. And this forum is the best venting area ever..had I found this site before, I might have saved myself some pain and realizations. Like I could have posted my worries and have them set to rest by you guys
Its been only a day for me so far of no contact. It sucks because I was doing so well but broke the no contact last week and now i'm starting again!Oh well you just gotta look forward and move on from the past.. I just know I'll c him around especially when I go back to college. And whenever he sees me around he seems to think I went to that place just to see him!Which is totally not true but thats what he believes for some reason.He is such a jerk I hate him so much right now actually if I never see him again it'll probably be the best thing thats ever happened to me.
If You guys only knew how piss'd I was at the responses I got when I first came to this site you'd be surprized. I wanted to hear things like call him and tell him how you feel, and things like sure he still loves you he'll be back soon. Thats what I WANTED to hear.
What I got was the TRUTH plain and simple. I can admit now what I really wanted was for them to sugar coat everything to make me feel better. Well they were RIGHT and he didn't come back. And they were RIGHT when they said if you love someone as much as we think our ex's do they wouldn't have walked away.
All of this BS about I have to many problems and I need to be alone to work them out. When you're in LOVE and I mean TRUELY in LOVE like I was with my ex, the first thing you do when you have problems in life is reach out to the one you love. The one that makes lifes bull $hit a little bit easier.
Oh and I love this one. I need to find myself so I need to be single. How can being in love keep you from finding yourself?
Well I was never more able to be myself and truely knew exactly the person that I am better then when I was in love. What i'm saying here is, when you are in love and I mean truely in love all the UP's and DOWN'S of life are just that much sweeter when you have the one you love to share it with. So tell me, if you add up all the excuses dumpers use to be out of the relationship DOES THAT SOUND LIKE LOVE TO YOU?
Ok, heres one more for ya'll. Again, maybe it will never work and out she will never call me agian. But, if she does (wishful thinking maybe) I know its gonna be hard. I'm not gonna make it impossible but we will work things out slowly, very slowly and actually solve things. But what do you say if she calls. I mean, what if she ask "how are you?" Its like you want to tell her that you are just wonderful without her but at the same time you want her to know how much you love her.
Ok, heres one more for ya'll. Again, maybe it will never work and out she will never call me agian. But, if she does (wishful thinking maybe) I know its gonna be hard. I'm not gonna make it impossible but we will work things out slowly, very slowly and actually solve things. But what do you say if she calls. I mean, what if she ask "how are you?" Its like you want to tell her that you are just wonderful without her but at the same time you want her to know how much you love her.
I think if she's gonna call it'll be either because she wants to be friends or she wants to talk about the relationship. I'd say no to friends, personally that would probably be too hard, and you would be letting her have her cake and eat it too. And if she wants to talk about the relationship, take it slow and see where things go, i mean, only if you want too. I just wouldn't initiate anything, answer her questions honestly and try to seem optimistic about your future and what not. Cus she wanted you out of her life, so you should plan your future accordingly. If they really want you back, i think they'll try and make it clear, after all, they were selfish enough to break up with you, so why wouldn't they be selfish about getting you back if thats what they wanted.
As for me, im trying not to think about whether or not she'll call, i'm trying to think about where i want to see myself in the future, i have a lot of college ahead of me and it makes me happy to think of myself all successful. So yeah, i guess what im trying to say is... dont expect anything, for 1, you'll be surprised if they do call, and if they dont, you wont care.
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