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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
My ex said i couldnt last a week without calling her again. I guess that motivated me even more as it's now almost a week and a half.
Also her bestfriend called me yesterday to check up on me, too bad i was at a party and i told her i couldnt talk.
To make things even better, my ex tried calling me this morning and i ignored her call. It gets easier and easier each day. I think the 3 week barrier is key if you want to completely move on with your ex.
I don't know how long its been since I've talked to me ex. I'm not going to count either.
I have been feeling pretty good lately. Keeping myself busy and going out almost every night. Trying to hang out with different people constantly so that I can expand my network of friends and hopefully meet even more people. The group of friends I hang out with more than anyone else (in the past anyway) are all in relationships and don't get out much thus I can't meet many new people with them. I'm getting a little more in sync with my single friends.
For anyone struggling in the first few days/weeks -- trust me, it does get better. I know its hard to hear and you think I'm lying to you, but I'm not.
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Well I'm starting over again myself but this was pretty awesome. This morning, I was walking into our building and she was sitting there and she just gave this half wave looked down and said "hello," you could tell she was just looking sad. I was having a great day and I said, "Hey how are you doing?" very enthusiastic. She said, "okay" but looked away again so I for once being fully aware of what I was doing and not acting on emotions stopped and said, "Is everything okay?" She just did this pathetic nod. I was then said, "GREAT!" and kept on walking.
Then later at lunch a friend of hers calls me over to the table where she is with a couple other people and we start talking about something, I don't even remember what to be honest. Then I basically start mocking her with some inside jokes that nobody else would have got and make fun of her while pretending to talk about something completely different. Trust me, it worked better then I can explain it, and she was laughing. Then at one point her friend, said, "To stick up for you, I......." I interrupted, "What to you mean to stick up for me, what do you need to stick up for me for?" Of course he says, "She (pointing to her) says bad things about you all the time" I just looked at her and then him and I said laughing, "yeah consider the source." He then said, while she was in a horrible mood until you showed up, now she's having a good time." I then said, again, "yeah consider the source." But then I just kept on going doing my funny man routine that so many of you enjoy here on this site. I'm not really paying attention to her at all but she's laughing the whole way through. At the end when they got up to leave they all walked ahead and she just kind of stayed behind and watched me as I was cracking jokes at another woman at the table. I didn't even catch this at first I just happen to look over and see her standing there smiling and kind of laughing. She then walked off.
that's the way to go chuff!!! Keep up the good work. Being confident is the best way to go. When you realize that you're in control of your life/emotions, then you have nothing to be afraid of. I always tell myself to keep my chin up because this is only an obstacle that i need to overcome and so far it's been better than expected.
I've kept in touch with different friends from college, highschool and others from work. It helps so much knowing that there are people who get your mind off of her and make your life enjoyable.
Day Whatever of NC! I don't count. Ok, actually, I do know. I haven't spoken to him for a week but we haven't actually seen each other in over a month and it'll be 2 months since we broke up on the 23rd. Ok, maybe if I have to i can count : )
Anyhow, I can't believe how great I've been feeling. After a while, the good days really do start to outweight the bad days. Its great. And yeah, NC was broken (by him mind you) a week ago and it was rough for a day or two but I"ve bounced back quite nicely.
Its amazing to finally realize that yes, life does go on. Time really does start to heal everything if you just let it..and let it go...let go of everything you thought you're life was going to be and instead look forward to all the possibilities life has in store for you.
Honestly, this break up may have been the best thing to happen in my life. I only wish I had been the one to initiate it. But I can honestly say right now, it feels like it was the right move. I wasn't happy in the relationship. I was just used to having him there and being with him, but I sure as heck wasn't getting out of the relationship what I wanted and it was a constant struggle on my part to keep it above water. I deserve so much better than that! Yay to new beginnings!!
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