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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
Haha..thanks, Tal! I can't believe I've actually passed this. NEVER have I ever ignored a call from him..in 4 YEARS! Wow, kind of feel powerful for a change.
Yeah, I actually have a busy weekend. Surprise party for my friend tonight. Can't wait! It'll keep my mind of this "passing storm".
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WOW Losing it, I don't know if you feel it but it comes out from reading the last few pages how tough you are. I don't think you see it but it's there. Give yourself some credit and notice what I see. Also say hello to Ichi and Henry from the Chuffster, I'm a big fan of the name Ichi.
blah I hope I dont get a call from the ex on her birthday :P
well done losingit, we're all proud of you..
Don't fold - you'd be ruining all the progress you've done this past month..be strong
Agh! I'm a jerk! Now after the 2 phone calls and 2 texts yesterday from my ex (which I ignored), he sent me a pic of himself on my cell today. Like a stupid weakling, I fell for the bait and sent him back a picture of myself. (Granted I looked awesome in that picture, but i shouldn't have sent it to him and rather should have just let him continue to think I had fallen off the face of the earth).
Agh, does that count as breaking NC? After 22 days do I really need to go back to Day 1?? Its alright, its about time I just stop counting the days anyway.
Feel like crap. I'm stronger than that..i shouldn't have fallen for the bait. Now, I just gotta forget about it, pretend it didn't happen, and go back to "business as usual".
losingit: I'm wondering what possessed you to send that picture...and I'm also wondering why your ex sent you a picture of himself.
I wouldn't beat myself up for it, but learn from it. NC is an art. Perfect it as you go.
You don't have to go back to day 1. I'd cheat and say...go back to day 18
It sounds cliche, but everybody falls, it's how you get back up that matters. I've "fallen" MANNNYYYY times through my NC to the point that tal probably wanted to beat me with a bat. eh. best wishes.
I think you do go back to day 1. No offense but you broke NC, and there was no reason for it. We were just saying how strong you were and then you showed a moment of weakness. Everyone breaks NC at first, now you can see that it got you no where. Now get angry and firm with this NC
Ouch, guys! I should've just lied and not told you about it. ; ) Baby steps. Atleast I didn't send him a picture of myself crying into a box of Kleenex and bon bons! (I've never actually done that so don't worry about me.) And atleast it was just a 'moment" of weakness. Not hours/days of begging or pleading. I'm not defending my actions, I know it was wrong. I apologize to all my followers out there. I've let you down. But I'm back up again and fighting!
Alright, I'm back on the NC train full force. But I'm not counting the days anymore. The counting and checking days off the calendar is starting to get depressing.
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