At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them
answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in
answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you
will be able to:
Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+
topics.
How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
dude sounds good. i guess 9month.. ur pretty much moved on.
i thinks the its the hardest thing for us to achieve.. the rest of us... being the ONE in control!
cheers dude.
dude sounds good. i guess 9month.. ur pretty much moved on.
i thinks the its the hardest thing for us to achieve.. the rest of us... being the ONE in control!
cheers dude.
Everyone is different. You will start to reach the ambivalence stage and know when you are getting there. There is no specific time for this, some get there in weeks, some take years. When you do get there you start to see things so much more clearly. That is why NC should always be stuck at, even if at the start it doesn't feel like the right thing.
Feeling alright, yesterday was pretty good also. The few days before that were a bit rough and I'm sure there are more rough days to come. Day by Day. Finally home from school for the summer which I thought would be nice, but for right now im kinda bored which leaves me a lot of time to think.
Next week I'll be working full time, that will take up a lot of my time and not allow me to be bored. I need to unpack, so hopefully that will keep me busy. Also going to look at that motorcycle tonight, so hopefully I'll have a new toy soon
It has been playing on my mind these past few days that I really want to contact her. I'm scared that she has moved on and doesn't think of me, even though it was a mutual agreement to break up.
I miss the phonecalls at night, someone to talk to when something goes wrong as someone else said.. I was thinking after so many months of N/C that I will contact her and ask to take her for a coffee? Then we can talk and see how we're both getting on and see if we both want to break up completely.
I have a strong feeling that she's in the same thinking of me. During the week, when we're alone, we both think of and miss each other - the times that we'd meet up. Our meets during the week was something to look forward to and even though I now have other things to look forward to during the week, nothing compares to her. At the weekend, I don't think much of her and am usually trying to chat up some other pretty lady! But damn I miss her attention so much.
[quote=DazT]It has been playing on my mind these past few days that I really want to contact her. I'm scared that she has moved on and doesn't think of me, even though it was a mutual agreement to break up.
Beware the mind tricks!!!
I miss the phonecalls at night, someone to talk to when something goes wrong as someone else said.. I was thinking after so many months of N/C that I will contact her and ask to take her for a coffee? Then we can talk and see how we're both getting on and see if we both want to break up completely.
Is that what you agreed you would do when you split up??
No. We'd broken up a few times before but every time one of us broke contact by a simple phonecall, that would go further to meeting up and then seeing each other again.
I mean, I remember all the really bad stuff about the relationship, but I also remember the really good stuff. I'm just wondering with all this N/C, has the slate been cleaned? I remember how great the relationship was at the start and have started to value the relationship we had more and more but I don't know about her. Has she?
No. We'd broken up a few times before but every time one of us broke contact by a simple phonecall, that would go further to meeting up and then seeing each other again.
I mean, I remember all the really bad stuff about the relationship, but I also remember the really good stuff. I'm just wondering with all this N/C, has the slate been cleaned? I remember how great the relationship was at the start and have started to value the relationship we had more and more but I don't know about her. Has she?
No one can answer that for you. What I can tell you is that she has not forgotten about you. When people leave such a big impact on our lives they will always be part of our memories.
I think your just at a rough spot and you need to ride it out. Hang in there for a few days and see how your feeling. Maybe it would be good for you to make a list of all the good things vs all the bad things in the relationship and see what list is longer. You admit that you broke up a few times before and acknowledge the problems with your relationship.
All too often we look back and see our exs though so called "rose colored glasses". We overlook all the bad and the things that split us up to begin with because we miss them. We are instantly able to forgive their faults and ignore the problems. Don't fall into this trap....
Linear Mode
