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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
How do you leave the bull$h!t baggage of the last relationship behind?
Just learn to love yourself enough to be willing to do what it takes to be happy. We may be gun shy at first, to take a chance in the future, but once you have really healed, and start to be proactive in building a life you enjoy, you wont be afraid to take that chance, and trust again. You just have to be patient and work to be healthy, and happy. Trust me, and I speak from experience, after healing you don't just forget that hurt, and pain, and you handle things much differently. Slowly, and eyes wide open. Love yourself enough to trust yourself.
Day 2 was a total success - no communication whatsoever. Wasnt even close to breaking NC. But i think my ex-boyfriend is being stubborn now and wont break it either which is kind of funny to think of.Reverse psychology.
Day 3 is going great for now
I think closure is all in our head...I felt I needed closure like nothing else, just an explanation,something..all I got was that she just doesnt want to be with me anymore..which means it was on her mind longer than I thought or imagined...
I know that some couples break up on good terms..but I find it better to be angry at her.
No-shes not a witch for breaking up with me..or getting bored of the relationship and wanting to move on..
But if she loved me like she claimed then we wouldve talked about this and we wouldve tried to sort this out..So I don't excuse her and I am angry at her.
So,confusionmax, you should ask yourself what the conditions of your break up are..and if you honestly want to be a txt , call , or email away...
Because I honestly dont want to bump into my ex or hear from her ever again.
(Day 29 and I deleted her from facebook btw..Next step?)
i agree with you about closure. i guess its just cuz i didnt expect it. and the question of do i honestly want to be there for him or not.... well he was my best friend... so i guess ya i do, but then i dont. i told him that cuz it just automatically came out.. but now that i think about it.. im not sure. and yes, i am angry at him... it helps somewhat.. but i still do miss him. but i know things cannot go back to what they were, so there's no hope waiting for it. i have to move on and thats about it. so... day 3 of reinstated NC... not going sooo welll yet.... but i will become stronger!!!
This question is interesting to me since my ex broke up with me brutally. I was in tears the last time I saw him. It was tough, but I did not contact him at all afterwards. Exactly 4 weeks later, HE contacted me(!) and ironically enough, during that week, I had met a guy I was interested in. I was already going through the notion of moving on and directing my interest in this new guy. It really frustrated me that he would come back into my life the moment I noticed another man. He told me made a mistake, wanted things back to how they were...well, it lasted less than 2 weeks since I caught him lying to me about his whereabouts, which is the main reason why HE broke up with me in the first place! He couldn't even admit that he got caught the second time around, broke up with me again, and blamed it on me, saying I was paranoid, didn't believe him (obviousy!) and whatnot. Unbelievable!
I even deleted him from my facebook before he could delete me. It was kind of surprising to me that he hadn't done it right away since he was logged on shortly before I caught him lying to me.
I know now not to date liars. haha. And no, I'm not planning to break the NC rule at all the second time around. I didn't the first time around and he came back. If he comes back this second time around, my answer is simply, NO!
How on earth can they not miss us?
Don't feel tempted to call her or talk to her much...But it is beyond me how she's never called or texted me..just on msn..
Wow, 31 days and she never even attempted contact.
That's what I'm dreading, him not even attempting, but I know we shouldn't be concentrating on that. He attempted on Day 6 of NC but I didn't answer. Maybe he got the hint. Oh, well. Not my problem anymore.
Think of it this way. Its way easier to keep NC if they aren't trying to contact you and keeping NC is the main goal!
She tried contact via msn every 4-5 days or so..she would just say hi but I wouldnt reply..
I expected atleast a call or a text at some point but it appears I am not worthy
heh
you're right though it wouldve been frustrating if she kept butting in my life..its better im left alone
Cant sleep tonight... its 4AM... its been about 4 months NC... and im still having these days/nights... shouldn't i be better by now... i know ive made a lot of progress, and im happy with things right now, but i just wish i had another interest... someone else that i could see myself with. Its just so damn unfair... if my ex ends up with this new guy i think im gonna take karma into my own hands, shed a little blood. (im kidding, obviously) but sometimes i want to hear something, anything about they're demise... im pretty sure its gonna happen, but i cant be sure, lol that sounds so selfish... goodness writing this makes me feel better, i less than 3 AMHD... i am so glad i found this site, im so glad for the great advice... i dont know where i would be without it. but at the same time i'm glad my ex is happy, if she is happy... and i think i would like to be her friend one day, but im gonna let it happen naturally... im not gonna call her this summer at all when she comes home, NC is easy, but knowing that she's around doesnt make me feel any better. i also know that she has just about no friends here, what the crap is wrong with me... i know ill feel better tomorrow, and i know that girls will flirt with me tomorrow at work, and i should feel a little prideful about that, but none of them really do it for me... so it has me thinking im too picky, but is it so wrong that i know what i want in a girl and dont really settle for anything less? i guess i still have trouble accepting that she just doesnt want me anymore... and it really boggles the mind, we were so great together, and it sucks to think that the guy she left me for is better... women huh?...
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