I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

MLB33

Sorry about those 3 "answers" I left. I'm new to this thing so ya know. Its my 2nd day of NC, 3rd of us being broken up. This has helped reading all of this, thank God its not just me. I really like the win-win situation with NC. However, if she does call (it seems a lot of ppl on here hope they will) and I dont answer then does that tell her I'm not interested? I mean, she is gonna have to bend over backwards for me if this is ever going to work again so I know that much. I guess Im asking if I should show any interest whatsoever b/c I dont want her to feel like she made a mistake and then think I'm mad and give up. But I guess she wouldnt give up if she really wanted it to work. And umm....she lives on the other side of the apt complex. Ok, enough being pathetic for now, going to work out.

Romefalls19

My whole outlook on the situation is...If she calls, let it ring out and then call her back awhile after...I'm not quite sure how long I'm going to let her wait, but I'm hoping for at least a day..Make her sweat as long as possible..Now if she calls once and you let it ring out and then calls again later..pick it up..It might be important

talaniman

For those new to NC, it amazes me how you can be dumped, and still think she will come back, and are so willing to wait, and care more for her feelings, than your own. Its always so interesting as we heal, and move on, we can look back, and really see how unhealthy we are when we get here, and how we have completely changed our attitudes. Good Luck!

MLB33

Ok, sorry I feel retarded and selfish to keep talkin but another question. I was driving to the place where I work out and the tanning bed that my g/f goes to is right next to it. I saw her car there then saw her walking to the front door as I was driving by in the parking lot. I looked at her and she kinda slowed down and waived. I just turned my head back around and went on to park and didnt look back. This is so freakin hard. I know Im just suppose to move on I KNOW. But Im just not there yet. And, I dont wanna burn any bridges if she does realize she needs me. I WILL NOT go pour my heart out though or even contact her. Did I do the right thing?

roogirl

I was going well for a while there, but this week I feel like I've taken 10 steps back and one forward. I'm making so much progress, and all I want to do is tell him! And when I realise he's gone, it just smacks me in the face one more time. I have to work out how I'm going to break this self-torturous cycle. I say the prayer 'god grant me the serenity...and so on' to talk myself into letting go, I tell myself to stop being stupid, he's not coming back, and just to let go, so far it has been ineffective. I think this no contact is working more against me and more in his favour! It's making me miss him 10 times more than he's probably ever going to miss me. At the same time, this method of self torture is truly the only way to heal. It's been hell, but I still haven't crumbled and made any contact.

MLB33

I know the feeling Roo. She kinda gave me the "I still love you and dont wanna be w/anybody else thing." But this is killing me. I'm not stupid, as dumb as I may sound for wanting to hang on. But I do want to hang on. I want her back. And I'm throwing the idea of calling her and just saying, "if its over its over but i need to know for sure." Then I'll prob get the "I cant say for sure" response and then really feel dumb for letting her know this is killing me.

talaniman

Yeah, its tough as those fresh, intense emotions have our thinking coo-coo-lala, at times, but it will pass for a while, just try to stay on the path of NC.

OverDozed

this is my 4th month of NC thing..................
i feel alive but not living...........hehehehehe!
in some ways i fell dead but not departed........

*sobs*

lunchboxau

I'm only close to 1 month in and feel the same Overdozed. Yesterday after talking to one of my female friends @ work I've decided to be a bit pro-active about certain things and force myself to feel a bit more alive. My flatmate and I are moving (she used to live with me and I think a change in scenery will help) and I'm changing jobs (I used to work with her too heh) and I figure if I can force myself to be in more foreign situations then it might help facilitate the moving on with my life phase I hope to be in soon

MissingHim2Much

Very good plan lunchbox, My ex and I lived together for many years so everything I now have we accumulated together (furniture, t.v.'s dishes) EVERYTHING. It's rough living in the same place with all the remiders. If I had money I'd ditch that place and all the crap and move someplace else. To bad thats not gonna happen anytime soon. I think you have the right idea though...Good for you!!!