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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
I'm have been reading up on a lot of you guys lately and seeing how things are going. I must say, I am impressed with a lot of you! Keep your heads up as it does take time to heal, you gave something to the other person and they broke it. Just like if you break a bone, it needs time to heal but only if you stop reopening the wound.
GG23 - I know you're angry at your ex, which is all well and good but to think about nothing more than revenge is not the way to be. When thinking about revenge remember to dig a grave deep enough for two. Something changed between the two of you, fate had other plans other than what you sought out. I know it's painful that you gave your whole heart and trust and they broke it. But time heals all wound, and be thankful for the time you guys have spent together.
AshleyStar - It's only Day 2, so as bad as it sounds, it only gets harder for the next 2 weeks. But take comfort in knowing you have people here who have been through what you are going through and will help you every step of the way. Shoot for a week with NC, then once you reach the week, shoot for a month and just keep going! Take a mental note of how you feel right now, and keep in mind everytime you break NC, you will feel exactly like this over and over again. It's not worth it
Dazt, I'm sorry to hear about that. Blame must fall on both of them though, being drunk is no excuse. I have been drunk plenty of times and remember everything I did and have had some of my friends ex's hit on me and I still knew it was a no fly zone. With that being said, I sure hope you have found out who your true friends are.
funny huh? gg is what i called her!!! oh well anyway...maybe i was a bit too angry the oether day! i m definately thankful for the time we had together. no regret about it. it was great overall! but i guess it was just time to part away! somehow deep down a voice tells me u know it was the right thing to do!...when she told me that she did not have the time and effort, i didn't beg, or asked her to stay with me! as much i as i love her, i told her that i will never do that ever! i told her that she chose to be with me, and if she no longers wants to, i m cool with her decision...but i told her that she knows what that would mean! end of story!!! begging a girl to stay with me just won't cut it for me, not as long as i can get other without much trouble....but there we really had something going here i thought, but life has it own way of playing things out.... of course i need time to heal because i love her and she broke my heart that life, it happens to the best of us funny huh? hahaha!!!!! ho well the revenge part was just me getting my frustration out! she was good to me in general i'll give her that but maybe just like i said it was time to part away....plus we were gonna move further away! when i decided to go NC, i kept track the first few days, but decided to stop. cuz i know i will get over her and i will leave on. i understand that this is normal to long for hernow cuz i miss her, n to be sad, but...it happened before before u know it, it will be gone for good....n what also made me feel this bad, is because she has been thus far my longest relationship!!!!again like i said...longterm was never my style till i met her!!!haha funny...oh well anyway i m cool, looking forward to a great summer and loads of fun!!!her loss...
Right it's been a week since "the fight".... 2 days of n/c....I really want to text him. I know I have spent a day harrassing him already and he isn't interested but I feel that if he loved me "so much baby" the day before the fight then how can he just feel nothing now? i need advice badly!!!
Only he knows the answer to that question Ash. Trust me, dwelling on questions you can't answer is sending you down a road you don't want to travel down. My ex and I were looking at engagement rings the night before she ended it and was all snuggly and lovable(along with half of the crew on here went through) and I spent 2 weeks wondering how everything went to shambles. It didn't do me any good but feel free to post whatever you need to keep you from texting him as we are great motivators around here
Right it's been a week since "the fight".... 2 days of n/c....I really want to text him. I know I have spent a day harrassing him already and he isn't interested but I feel that if he loved me "so much baby" the day before the fight then how can he just feel nothing now? i need advice badly!!!
im goin through the same thing at the mo, i text and text my ex and its got me no where so im now doin no contact, she says she loves me and wants me but doesnt know if it will work.
i say let them contact us, i sent her a text sayin ive tried and the rest is up to her, that was the last text
Only he knows the answer to that question Ash. Trust me, dwelling on questions you can't answer is sending you down a road you don't want to travel down. My ex and I were looking at engagement rings the night before she ended it and was all snuggly and lovable(along with half of the crew on here went through) and I spent 2 weeks wondering how everything went to shambles. It didn't do me any good but feel free to post whatever you need to keep you from texting him as we are great motivators around here
I second that. The weekend before we broke up (last time i saw her b/c of school) we were having a great time. Spent every day with her that weekend, built a campfire in the back yard, made some smores, just hung out by the fire and she said it was the best time she had in a long time. "Couldn't wait to do it again next weekend". Next weekend rolls around - "I don't know if im happy anymore." To top it off, I heard the line "Sometimes I was faking being happy" (...bullsh*t, you can't fake that. Trying to justify it to herself i imagine).
In either case, worrying about the things they said, what they did and how they felt right before it happened doesn't matter. All that matters is what happened and whats going to happen now - YOU GETTING BETTER.
Next time you want to text or email, post up here.... as Rome said - we're great motivators (and we'll kick your a*s if necessary)
Zoo, I didn't want to give you a red disagree flag because I may have misunderstood your post. It seems as though you are using NC as a way to get your girlfriend back, that's not what it's for. Use this time to heal, become a better person. Open your horizons a bit, take in all life has to offer. Go do something you didn't think you would do before. Don't use NC as hope that she will return or your recovery process will be longer and in a month when she doesn't call you, you will be back here crying about how she hasn't called you. Do this for YOURSELF, put yourself first. Forget the girl, forget the relationship because she already has.
Sorry if that sounds harsh but sometimes you need a kick in the a*s to get the point across
Zoo, I didn't want to give you a red disagree flag because I may have misunderstood your post. It seems as though you are using NC as a way to get your girlfriend back, that's not what it's for. Use this time to heal, become a better person. Open your horizons a bit, take in all life has to offer. Go do something you didn't think you would do before. Don't use NC as hope that she will return or your recovery process will be longer and in a month when she doesn't call you, you will be back here crying about how she hasn't called you. Do this for YOURSELF, put yourself first. Forget the girl, forget the relationship because she already has.
Sorry if that sounds harsh but sometimes you need a kick in the a*s to get the point across
Id give you another greenie, but i cant... on a roll today Rome.
In no way am I condoning their actions Rome, I'm saying they probably did do something because they're disloyal as they come AND the drink probably made them even more disloyal.
Anyways - after a couple of hours of hurt, I slapped myself and told myself to wise up! My life is great at the moment, I'm starting to feel kind of happy again. Then I have bad days but the good days always come back and somehow always manages to last longer than the bad ones!
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