I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

talaniman

I read your post and you got some good advice, but I suspect you didn't like your answers much.

AshleyStar

Well I guess I didn't no. It's difficult when people don't know you and know what kind of person you are. However having spoken to my friends and family about it they were keen to point out his faults (which I'm not bitter enough to list) and that he was the one in the wrong for breaking up with me the week of my finals. Actually after the advice given on here I started to blame myself for everything and thinking I was a horrible person but as one of my friends said, "everyone snaps from time to time."

zooropa1985

hey everyone, well its day 0 and im crying like a girl with a skint knee and a wort on her nose, yep its that bad.

ive been through this before thankfully but i dont know if that makes it better or worse, i know wat i have to do but also know how much and pain is involved.

I think im at the realization stage now, you know the part when you know its over.

DazT

Had told all of my close friends not to tell me any stories of my ex but I get one of them didn't listen. Was told that last weekend that my ex slept in the same bed as one of my friends and they were both drunk. Don't know what to get up to and it hurts that one of my friends would do that! But ahh well, shows what she's like.

losingit77

Day 18 of NC! My official record of all time now! Yay!

Still miss him loads...but am no longer "devastated". And that's the end of a 4 year relationship with the man i thought i'd marry and spend the rest of my life with. Now at 30 (which by the way is the "new 20"), i'm starting over again. So to all the younger ones out there, trying to get over the "loves of their life"..trust me. Chin up and move on! There will be plenty more to come. You will survive this and be an even better person for it. There's still a whole lot more of life to live!

gg23

hey guys! thank for sharing all your stories. NC since the 25th. besides an email to get closure. never got a response so i figure i 'll leave things the way they are. almost two years together.the girl used to worship me when i showed no emotions. then i fell for her. anyway. she went to a trip out the country this past december. came back, i had a funny feeling that something was not right. we never thought before that. always was polite towards me. then things all changed. febuar, she started ignoring my calls, taking forever to reply text....anywho..long story short, i tried to save us...but all i could get was i " i m too busy..." so i finally wrote her cuz she wouldn pick up when i call. then she pulls the i don't think i have the time and effort to put in a relationship right now....my gut feeling was that she was cheating on me....we r in different univ....but i never found that out..but it was a drastic change....cut down on sex...wouldn't even kiss me either...weird huh? almost 2 years together u think u know them, u let your guard down, then BAM...u get the hardest blow ever....my semester on the line...harcore eng. classes...everything just went donwhill..man...i usually have not problem getting girls...but i fell for her and committed ..n gave her my trust....i just really wish i could erase this heartache....but i guess only time huh?...i won't even bother calling her....i feel so betrayed to the point i feel really stupid....like the song say..she caught me by surprise..always told myself that it could never happen to me again...man was i wrong...anyhow so NC since the 25...n honestly, thought i still long for her, i won't bother...i got a lot of people waiting down the line..but its just like she took my energy away its crazy..oh well live and learn.....
lesson learned : never trust too much in people, that setting urself for dissapointement...

gg23

so basically NC 13 days...going strong...it funny. the samething happened to me a few time back. with two girls. then i just ignored them and they came right back. but this one. i hope for that she has nothing left for me....cuz if she falls again, she will be sorry for playing me like that!...anyway...serioulsy guys....always and I MEAN always look for the signs. we often get blinded and give them the benefit of the doubdt... had i caught up and turst my gut, i would save myself all this bullcrap....my mistake was that i fell for her. she knows that. but she also knows how much i get approched by girls, and that regardless of whether or not she around. i cna't believe i stopped enjoying all the gals...for what? for this???

chuff

Crying like a girl with a skint knee is bad but like one with a wort on her nose. OUCH. Oddly enough that reminds me of my ex. Trust me, I just came off that myself and she was playing the game with me, until I finally just backed all the way off. That was a few weeks ago and I feel great and I still see her a couple times a week. Give yourself some time to come down and eventually a new girl with worts will make her way into your life.

AshleyStar

Day 2, although I nearly gave in and sent a text earlier I refrained. When does it stop getting worse? Everyday I wake up is more painful than the last...should it not be getting a bit better by now?

nickshehe

zooropa1985, went through the same phase..I'm on day 35 I think now? of NC that is..
I knew I was going to be okay at some point but I hated the process of getting there, cause I was there before too.. and I knew its a sucky road..Hang in there man.

Ashley, it's still early for you..If you read about 70% of the posters here broke NC, got even more upset, even more confused, even more depressed..and the second time around they STICK to it..So the odds are against you, you should always think of that when you're feeling like breaking the contact. You'll only put yourself in a worse place.