I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

DazT

Thanks for the words of advice Bigbird. I know how unhappy I was that's why we kept breaking up.. I don't know if I'm unhappier now we've broken up completely.. I guess I was always unhappy for the past few months of the relationship, whilst now I'm only unhappy some of the time if you get me.

Every so often I just get annoyed that the only person that ever cared for me like she did is moving away from me each passing N/C day and I think thats why I feel the need to contact her, even though she isn't good for me.

losingit77

Day 17 of NC! And 2 days in a row now I actually feel pretty awesome. I think about him a lot but not every second of every day now.

Do I still miss him? Yes. Do I still love him? Yes...but I love myself more. Do I miss loving someone/giving my love to someone and getting it back in return? Absolutely. Do I think this break-up might have actually been the right thing? Possibly. I'm getting there. Do I think I'm going to die if I never speak to him again? Absolutely not.

I know its still early and there's probably rough days ahead but I can say I feel pretty good and feel great about myself today. I'm really starting to feel like my old self again. Yay!

For those wondering if NC is the right thing to do, trust me..IT IS! Forget about what your ex needs, YOU need this NC time to clear your head and see things for what they really are.

bigbird213

Are you sure Tal didn't hire you as a salesperson for NC?

losingit77

HAHA..I know its crazy! I feel alive again. Tomorrow will be my all time record for NC so I think later on (maybe next week) I might start to feel down again, but I'm prepared for it.

The greatest thing about being the one dumped is that you can have no regrets. I absolutely have no regrets about the relationship or my part in it. Its gotta suck to be the dumper thinking, "gosh, did i do the the right thing? blah blah". As the dumpee, all you can do is say "whatever", dust yourself off, and keep moving.

I mean it is hard cause i miss him. And normally on days like today when i'm feeling good and the weather is nice are the days i would call him up and talk about what a wonderful day it has been and i can't do that now so that part sucks but whatever. His loss.

len21

Wow losingit congrats sounds like you really are feeling positive:-)

I am in a great mood today, i went out with this guy again last night who keeps asking me out and could not believe the way i feel about him, i do realise it is too soon to jump into anything right now but it is so exciting to feel something like this again for someone else. I find him fun, attractive and he likes me and we are both toatally keen to take things slowly!! what an awesome feeling it was weird not to have my ex as the first thing i thought about this morning yay:-)

losingit77

Yeah, I'm feeling good. The only bad note is sometimes I think, well if I'm feeling good and happy, maybe he's feeling good and happy..good and happy to be rid of me! That kind of sucks. Like, did he forget about me already? Duh! We were only together 4 years! Its stupid. Tell me I'm being stupid, I know.

I know I shouldn't think this, but a part of me hopes that if I'm feeling good and happy, then he's feeling sad and miserable. Like there's only so much happiness to go around and if I suck it all up, the scales go in my favor and he's on the losing end. I'll try to keep those bad thoughts under wraps for now. : )

bigbird213

Not stupid - ive felt the same thing. You start wondering if your doing this good and you were the one that got dumped how good have they been feeling?

You've got the right attitude though, you'll be just fine

jpm247

sounds like you guys are doing well - losing it and len.

don't put too much pressure on yourselves, just take each day as it comes.

i still get bad moments, but then they do pass. im much more positive now.

it is definately their loss, and it doesn't matter about if they are happy, just make sure you do things to make you happy.

you will have bad days and good days, then bad moments and good days, then a bad thought, then a good few days.

its a rough ride, but it definately gets better. keep busy and think of the most important person in your life - you!

but you guys are definately on the right track.

ISneezeFunny

to be honest with you guys...at this point, I don't want my ex to contact me...in fact, I'm having such a hard @ss time trying to get my ex to stop trying to contact me..it's ridiculous.

my fun never stops:

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...161688-36.html

AshleyStar

Hi I'm new here. I'm a bit scared to post because I posted last night in the dating forum about a break up and got slaughtered so hopefully this thread on't be as bad.

My boyfriend and I had a fight last thursday, he told me it was over on sunday, i harassed with texts all of sunday. had n/c mon and on tues sent him a text saying i was sorry for snapping at him and i understand why it's over. he replied this morning saying thanks for the text and he doesn't want to part on bad terms. So, I didn't reply and am on my first day of n/c. woo hoo!!

He owes me money which could be problematic on the n/c count...