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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
Day 16 of NC! I feel AWESOME today. Don't know why. Had 2 really bad days in a row and now i feel great. Hopefully this high will continue atleast for another couple of days.
And yes, after careful deliberation and the counsel of my friends and family, I've reached a decision. I will NOT be calling him for his b-day. I'm starting to feel enlightened. I was a wonderful gf..couldn't have asked for better. He, on the other hand, was a pretty crappy bf towards the end so why should i reward him with anymore of my attention or care. I'm the prize, not HIM! Thanks all! Keep up the NC, it works if you work it! (I think that's an AA quote but you get the idea).
Day 2 - I almost broke today - but I wrote two text messages, saved them to my draft folder, waited an hour and deleted them after I read them again.
It actually made me feel better twice - once because I got the thoughts out - and even more so because I kept them mine instead of hers (since she doesn't deserve them anymore anyway).
jckdig - here's something that helped a while ago when i had the urge to contact. i deleted his # from my cell and saved my own cell phone # in my cell under his name. This way every time i wanted to send him a text message i wound up just sending it back to myself. it helped. sometimes just typing it all out and sending it (even just back to yourself) somehow just makes you feel better. like you released it.
I had an awful weekend - nearly broke contact twice after nearly 40 days.. was so bored because I was on a weekend away with my parents and was sat in an apartment most of the time with nothing else to think about BUT my ex. So was on a low for 3 days, hopefully I pick it up now I'm home, I've started to feel better already.
Weird how the mind takes you on rollercoasters isn't it?
i just found out my grandma died, we wernt that close but i am still feeling pretty sad and all i want to do is talk to my ex:-( weird when something bad happens they are still the first person you want to share it with...
i made an e-mail account and sent them to that address. it almost feels like they get them.
haha and if u make up. than there all these wonderful memories u can make reading them together
i just found out my grandma died, we wernt that close but i am still feeling pretty sad and all i want to do is talk to my ex:-( weird when something bad happens they are still the first person you want to share it with...
I'm sorry for your loss....
Just know anything you need to share you can share with us on here and someone will have some insight/kind words for you. You have other people to talk to, just remember that....
i just found out my grandma died, we wernt that close but i am still feeling pretty sad and all i want to do is talk to my ex:-( weird when something bad happens they are still the first person you want to share it with...
u do know its a valid reason to talk to him/her. heck even mean this person is so very special to you.
How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
What about the rest of you?
9 months to the day. Despite my resistance at the start, and 3 or 4 months of not being myself, I now know this is the best thing I have ever done. I am not the one in control. I am not really that fussed if she ever contacts me anyway, if she does, she will find a very different person than the one she last saw!!! I almost find it quite funny that I was so needy over one person ( a bit like a bad film!!).
9 months to the day. Despite my resistance at the start, and 3 or 4 months of not being myself, I now know this is the best thing I have ever done. I am not the one in control. I am not really that fussed if she ever contacts me anyway, if she does, she will find a very different person than the one she last saw!!! I almost find it quite funny that I was so needy over one person ( a bit like a bad film!!).
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