My muslim fiance thinks Im a virgin.

perfectdolls · #1 Jan 2, 2009, 11:48 PM

I'm getting marry in a month I'm Muslim and my fiancé is Muslim too. Our marriage has been arrange by parents. The problem is that I'm not a virgin and I'm scared on my wedding night is future husband is going to realized that I'm not a virgin!!! what should I do???? I don't know what to do because he just came from a Muslim country and if I tell him he would not understand!... please and advise of any kind.. I'm in danger

a la king · Jan 3, 2009, 12:36 AM

Just tell him you you broke your Hyman (if that's your concern) riding a bike. I know someone who had a nasty fall on a bike seat and broke theirs.... seriously.

Fiona321 · Jan 3, 2009, 01:03 AM

^Yeah, or tell him you broke it when you started using tampons.

a la king · Jan 3, 2009, 01:06 AM

The best solution would try and be honest with him. But I know there are probably some cultural differences that could cause you problems.

starbuck8 · Jan 3, 2009, 01:07 AM

Excuse me? You said you are in danger! Why do you feel like you are in danger? Why are you agreeing to marry this man if you cannot be honest with him and you don't feel safe? I don't care what religion you are. Your safety comes first, and you should not start off any marriage with no trust or dishonesty!

starbuck8 · Jan 3, 2009, 01:09 AM

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Originally Posted by a la king

The best solution would try and be honest with him. But I know there are probably some cultural differences that could cause you problems.

Never mind the cultural differences! This is NOT a good reason to marry someone if she feels in "danger!"

starbuck8 · Jan 3, 2009, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Fiona321

^Yeah, or tell him you broke it when you started using tampons.

Yeah, lying is a wonderful way to start a marriage! I won't give you a reddie, but this is not good advice. I don't understand why both of you are thinking that lying is the solution to this?!!

a la king · Jan 3, 2009, 01:17 AM

You're right. It was bad advice. But the reality is some of these cultural differences can get pretty messy when people instill the North American point of view.

This could very well be a much touchier subject than you are making it out to be.

lawanwadee · Jan 3, 2009, 01:20 AM

Big differences between western and eastern culture.. I've lived in many different countries plus working with people's issues, I agree that you should let this secret die with you... don't tell hime ever, even you've had sex with the whole fleet. Men's ego is fragile... just say NO.

If you marry an American or Canadian or a Brit, it's different story.



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