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Hi what is the best way to apologise to an ex and get her talking to you, if she is ignoring you.
I was horrible and want to make up for it! But she is not speaking, ignores my mail and texts. I have sent a mail saying I was wrong and apologised but it does not make a difference.
Surly if someone is admitting there wrong that should count for something?
Give her time to find it in herself to forgive you. You have apologized and made it clear
that you are sorry. Give her a little space without having your incoming messages floating in her head.
I would maybe recommend, one more note to her. Just so your going silent, all of a sudden, is not misinterpreted by her. Send her one more BRIEF note, letting her know that you still are sorry and you want to give her the space she needs to understand. To just go quiet all of a sudden may not give the right impression and may fuel her being upset even more.
But after that, you have to stick to it and give her space. Hard to do, but it is important.
Hey.. you answered my post so I'm answering yours.... What kind of girl is she.. is she a compassionate person..understanding heart???? What did you do that she is now your ex??? Did you guys mutually break up...? Were you the one to break it off??? If she is not responding, she is probably either annoyed ... or she is trying to figure things out.. I do think that she is thinking about you and probably thinking about the situation... If you want to be romantic about it.....and also what I would like if this were me.... Just go to see her... show up at her door... flowers and the works... write down what u want to say first on a piece of paper and need be, bring it with you... wear your heart on her sleeve... tell her what it is about her that makes you want her back.... but you have to trust in yourself and tell her that you are going to give 100% to the relationship to fix things and have her forgive you.... There is a possibility that she will not care, but if you do it sincerely and the right way, I think you will work things out... YOu are the man....you must step up to the plate... Emails are dumb.. they are just typing words.. even though most of us could get thoughts out better this way... they are still just informal.. you need to see her face to face... In my situation, I wrote the emails while he didn't call for days... but I did it so I would be in his head and he would think of me....and i'm sure in your case.. she is...Now, I just have to wait for him... remember... me... the one with the bipolar boyfriend...
Onlineguy,
I am not sure what you did to hurt her or how you went about apologizing, but it is very apparent that you have let it be known you are sorry..she knows.
If you continue to push at her you are going to annoy her and she will never come around.
You really need to give her space to let her think things through. Whatever happened between you is obviously enough to break things off and have her ignoring you- so she needs time to adapt to these changes and figure out how she will deal with them.
If you keep apologizing and asking for a response she is going to get fed up and just walk away completely...if she has not already. The most mature thing you can do is let her be. Dont put any more pressure on her, and hopefully she will come around and talk to you again.
I know girls can be confusing, but always remember it goes both ways. its human nature to not always understand another person...we are all different and we all handle situations differently. That is just something you must get used to and respect...the more you can respect other peoples responses the better you will understand them.
SINGLE4 answered your question perfectly. Leave her alone.
Maybe contact her ONCE in SIX months.
What don't you get about annoying? Beleive me from my many experiences you can never CONVIENCE an ex to like you again.....once you MOVE on thye may come back - but only then.
Dang, every answer here is perfect, well except for one!!!
You also need to understand that they are ex's for a reason.
Yes, we are women, we are hard to understand, well, men are hard for women to understand too. LOL
Anyway, apparently you did something to hurt her and she is ready for No Contact.
If I were her, I would feel like I was being stalked. If I want out of a relationship I do not want contact from the other person so that I have time to heal. You are not giving her time to heal by emailing and whatever.
You need to understand that she may never want to get back together, but that is her choice and nothing you can do will change her mind. I never got back with any of my ex's and the reason being was that there was too much past to begin a new future. She may feel the same.
You can never go back and change the past, what is done is done. Although there may be forgiveness, it will remain in her memory.
I definitely think that you should give her time... I don't mean go knocking on her door tomorrow... but when it comes to that point or if it does, you should do it... I just say that because you might regret how you feel later... not the best advice I guess since someone said all the answers but "mine" apparantly were perfect... but everyone is different and when it comes to love, sometimes you just have to take a chance... kind of like what you told me... at least maybe then you will have some kind of closure. I say you give her plenty of time and then make your last move.
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