I'd been dating my ex for 6 years and the relationship got bored and it went mellow. He decided to pop out a question regarding marriage or the next step, but I said no, because he was not ready and I was not ready. We always have arguments, but we also trust and understands each other. Until after we broke up almost a week, he tried pursuing one of my friends because she had something for him in the beginning. They like each other, but I don't know if she is just a rebound. I'm a forgiving person, but the thing is I can't move on. I know there are so many responsibilities and other things I have to take care of, but I worry about him all the time. It's been 3 months and I made mistakes. I kept calling him, crying and he worries about me and scared if I talk to him like this, he will have to stop calling me or talking to me, but he does care a lot for me. There are so many memories that I can't erase because it's been 6 years. I'm not mad at them, I want them to try, but is it still possible that he would come back to me? I don't mean come back now, but like when we have our own little experiences and I don't know if guys tend to try for a relationship and then change when he comes back with ex? I also did many mistakes too after the break up, I called him almost everyday (I know I should stop now), I talked to this friend and I guess I want to hear answers and truth, but it's sad that now he is protecting her. I know he still does not know what he wants yet until he tries, but he was never single and he never had the chance to settle down. He might not try to pursue her now, but he wants to when she is ready. He's the type if he doesn't get it and know he can have it, he will try to pursue it. I was wondering if he just wants a fresh feeling? I just want a understanding and I want to know if it's possible to get back with ex? I also know that I have to move on, but I want to know, so I can feel better.

I think he has made his decision, he just doesn't want to be with you. You are going to have to move on, six years is a long time, and because it is a long time it is going to take more than a couple months maybe, that is all up to you. Look at this as an experience that you will never forget and that has taught you a great deal of things, but it is now OVER. Go find someone who wants to be with you, or after six years, enjoy your singleness... it will be hard at first, but you will heal with time and things will get easier, think positive, you won't be able to right now, but time WILL heal you.

Good Luck,

Javi

He asked you to marry him, you said no, he decided to move on.

I'm not sure where you being a forgiving person comes in? Did you expect him to hang around after saying no? 6 years is a long time to wait to figure out marriage, so I'm sure he steeled his heart towards practicality and now has feelings for someone else. You must accept it, sorry. We can't possibly know what he is thinking or if he likes to pursue what he can't have. Considering that he wanted to marry you while he had you, it doesn't seem to hold a lot of weight.

Well, what happen was the friend message him once saying she had feelings for him and then after couple days later, he asked me about the marriage. It was in August. I told him I might wait for him and he told me that he does not know the future.

He said he wants to try out. He does not know what he wants yet. He said he does not see me in the future, but no matter what happen, if he wants me back, he will do anything to get me. What does that mean?

He was testing me. He never talked about marriage until he said he had the financial support, but he doesn't have a job. He also said he will fly back immediately to his country, but I have a family here to take care. And later found out about fnd

That means that he REALLY doesn't know what he wants, and that he is planning on keeping you around as a safety net, don't let yourself be teased by his Bull Sh*t! He broke up with you, go no contact, that is what he has wished upon himself anyway.

Good Luck,

Javi

It also means that he is desperate!

If I truly love him, I will wait for him, but if I don't, I will move on, but thank you so much for commenting. I understand. Thanks.