Mess up the mojo

jc105 · #1 May 26, 2006, 01:03 PM

So some of you know the story some don't.

Me and my ex have talked a couple times over the three months we've been apart. She knows it killed me, but I have been showing my best face to her through all of it. But anyway she calls me two days ago says she was hoping to run into me because she wanted a hug?!

What the hell, I was doing fine starting to hate her. She told me she didn't want to hang out and she is still with her new bf. What do you all think?

Not lookin for anything in particular just opinions. I'm still gonna not contact her for the time being...

HarryPT · May 26, 2006, 01:53 PM

I think she missed you and she wants you back but she is to stuck up to be straight forward....atleast thats my opinion. or she is just teasing you and wants to see how are you going to react specialy if she has a clue that you might be hurting all this time. (sometimes girls can be very cruel) Its a tuff one ....

valinors_sorrow · May 26, 2006, 01:53 PM

Could be several things.

In addition to what Chery said I think some women want a sense of polite closure (so they don't have to fear you as an ex in any sense of the word) and some women want to feel out the possibility of rekindling something.

Hard to tell at this juncture which is why its wise to do nothing.
I believe Chery is bullseye on the target with her sense that if there is "something happening", something more is likely to also.

I would fall back into the "nothing has changed" mode of operation and carry on that way until further notice.

fredg · May 27, 2006, 05:08 AM

Hi, jc,
You have some good answers.
Your ex has a boyfriend and now wants a hug from you?
As others said, I would, too, just play it cool. See what happens.
Or, you can keep going on your separate way, and forget about it, and her. I have no idea what she has in mind, wouldn't even want to guess.

jc105 · May 31, 2006, 04:32 AM

Honestly I was nice and told her I was busy and if she wanted to meet up later that night than we could, but we did not. She is not a cruel individual at all and at this point I am not sure how things would be if we were together again...

Anyway, no kids, we were together for 4 years though so we have had things to discuss. I did want to tell her that she didn't deserve a hug from me and she she go to her new man for that sort of crap. I didn't but the more I think about it I want to. Anyway, I got into RIT so I will be far away from this BS soon and then I won't even be thinking aboot it.

Wildcat21 · May 31, 2006, 06:39 AM

Or....IF you wanted her back....tell her to leave that guy IF she wanted that hug. And then play it cool my man.

jc105 · Jun 1, 2006, 10:56 AM

Honestly...

I don't think I do. We would have to go through so much crap again. Plus I am having a good time single. I may just tell her not to call me again...

If she calls again. Who knows though...

Wildcat21 · Jun 1, 2006, 11:44 AM

Don't call her. Seems like the ball is in your court right now. Leave it there.

One thing you want in a relationship - ball in your court if your the guy.

I bet she had the ball a lot.



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