Silverpetals,great question.Makes me wonder for the millionth time why we don't have something like relationship courses in school... so many questions can get answered and so many couples saved
Whether men test women and play mind games and whether women consciously try to play hard to get and all such questions have been there since ages.Without a satisfactory answer of course
Hence its best to leave aside anything that cant be answered and ensure that you,yourself,as an individual,lead your own life and reach your potential and be the absolute best that God wants you to be.Learn self-respect,self-esteem,self-love.And in the course of your beautiful life if you happen to come across someone who treats you the way you feel comfortable with,makes you want to be a better,more loving and caring person,then he's the right person for you.
Remember,a real,honest,healthy relationship doesn't get caught in the mesh of mind games,lies,trickery and anything negative.The moment YOU feel cheated,exploited,hurt,sad and distressed is when something isn't right in the relationship.There are no rules about how many times a man should call or ask out a woman as there are no rules when a woman should say yes or when she should say no.We make up all these rules--rules of dating,rules of marriage etc etc.But at the end of the day,its all about what you FEEL.Doesnt matter if a man cant call you for 5 days.If you FEEL his love,you are OK.Similarly,doesn't matter if he wines and dines you in swanky places,spends heavily on you,if he doesn't respect you and make you FEEL right,you have reasons to be concerned.
If some guy's making you ask questions about whether he's scoring you,testing you,put all your doubts to rest just by simply asking yourself this " How does he make you FEEL?"... your answer is all that matters.