I don't think that about all men...just the players.


THEIR GAMES...an open letter and opinion piece

Dear Mr. Player,

I’m sure they call you "the man" in your clique, but in actuality you’re an ***hole. When you see a young, innocent, and sensitive woman like myself, what really goes through your head? Am I easy? Am I your meal ticket? What am I to you? I attract you for whatever reason. You say all the right things, tell me what I want to hear, yeah you’re a sweet talker, you have a way with words. Some may call you the modern day Shakespeare. You have charisma... a real charmer you are. But don’t be mistaken, you are a pig. A nasty little oinker. People like you are like a sore that never heals...it just festers. You prey after the innocent and vunerable...what does that REALLY say about you? I never understood why you fellas feel as though you need to play mind games with women, especially the young and innocent ones. Ok, so a guy like you could say that a woman allowed them the opportunity to take advantage of them, but that is nonesense. You’re sick. Do you play these games with your mother, your sister, your daughter, your aunt, your grandmother? Would you want a guy to play these games with the women (woman) you life? If you have answered I don’t know, I don’t care, I never thought about it or yes...then walk yourself to the nearest institution...reality check, you need help.

Let me give you a word of advice. Life is a b****, no pun intended, and the things you do to others will come back to haunt you. Karma has that funny way of catching up. Treat people the way you would want to be treated no matter how easy it may to take advantage of them. You are playing games with someones daughter, mother, sister, aunt, cousin, niece, WHATEVER! It’s not right. People like you suffer from self-esteem issues. You use games as a way to bring women down. Men like you are not man enough to stand behind a good woman. A good woman scares you so you do what you can to make things more comfortable for you by devaluing her self-worth!

What sick pleasure do you get out of leading a woman on and then disposing of us like trash? ***NEWS FLASH*** I am not trash, we are not trash, and should not be treated as such. I am a jewel, a princess, and a commodity that is so rare I should be treasured. If you valued anything in your life, Mr. Player, you would understand that concept. Instead, you’re such an ignaramous, your mind is that of a peion. It’s small. You are a small indivdiual who has small thoughts. People like you think you are so smart but in reality you will never experience true love. You don’t know how to give love. What a terrible life you will live...always chasing for something you will never get. Why, because you are too busy playing women when in actuality you are only playing yourself.

AmExp

I just want a good guy, no games...some how that seems impossible.

Scleros

A regular contributor on AMHD has a signature that says something like "Insanity is doing the same thing again and expecting different results." What you're doing is not working so change some aspect of what you're doing. Where do you meet all these "bad" guys? Look elsewhere.

AmExp

In college....and it's one guy...not many...but I learned that many guys are like that because of my friend's experiences. The guys I dated in the past had their hang ups but they were not like this guy at all.

Scleros

Now that you've experienced a player, have you thought about how you're going to distinquish a player and the nice good guy you're looking for in the future? The player is going to make you feel oh so wonderful. The nice good guy will probably be uninteresting and have trouble communicating with you because he's so nervous and doesn't want to blow his chances. The player doesn't care what you think of him and can be bold. The goal is bedding you as quickly as possible. In fact, if it takes too long, he'll move on to easier prey.

Do you realize guys don't just *poof* morph into a player one day? Many actively train to be a player because they have been utterly unsuccessful with women - the nice good decent but ultimately rejected and lonely guys. How many nice guys have you turned down that just didn't do it for ya? There are entire websites devoted to the art of the pick-up and seduction. The Karma you're counting on to "even the score" isn't selective.

AmExp

there you go again with your assumptions...I don't turn down "the nice guy" if he comes my way and he is what I am looking for then clearly he will get a chance...

Scleros

Have you ever turned down guys that weren't what you were looking for? If so, theres a good chance at least one of them was a good guy - what you say you want. My assumption is only incorrect if all the guys you've turned down were "bad" or you've never turned anyone down.

Romefalls19

Awl, why thank you Brunette:-) I have always just been brought up with the believe that you are supposed to treat women with respect. And yea, we are right around the same age. It seems you have a great head on your shoulders and know what you want out of life. I appreciate the compliments and look forward to having another discussion with you again. :-)

Romefalls19

I feel as though I must interject into this conversation yet again. A lot of the good guys(I like to think of me as one) do feel as though we won't measure up to the standards that great women have set. We don't have the crafty lines that the "players" have because chances are, we have been in long term relationships so the whole idea of approaching a women is strange to us. Granted, I'm only 21 but when I approach a girl and talk to them for the first time, I get that nervous feeling. Sweaty palms, practice what I'm going to say in my head praying that I won't screw it up. I hate seeing these "players" get with really good girls, then they hurt them and the girl becomes so guarded, the nice guys can't get in anymore.

So while girls have something against players, trust me ladies, the good guys out there, have something against these "players" because they ruin things for us as well. He may tell you your beautiful to get in your pants, so that when the nice guys says "you're beautiful or pretty" we are immediately thought of as trying to do the same.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

I know a player when I see one.

Trust me, I don't fall for that crap.

PS. You're welcome Romey. You deserve it!

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

Of course the nice guys can 'get in' as you say. Be brave! There is NOTHING stopping the good guys to catch the game.

Romey (mind if I call you that?), you will do just fine. Sweaty palms and worrying over saying the 'right' things is normal, player or not.