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Meeting a girl I've been talking to online in real life for the first time...
I've been talking to this girl from Match.com for a few weeks now on AIM and on the phone, and tomorrow night we're meeting for the first time in real life.
I'm keeping it to a short and casual dinner after we both get off work.
Any advice?
I've never done this before and I'm kinda skeptical. But for those of you who know me on these boards, I think this is good for me to learn how to be chill about these things and not have any expectations. Just kinda get to know someone, plain and simple.
The wierd thing about online dating is that you know alot of stuff about each other without ever having interacted in the simple ways. I dunno how this will play out.
If any of you have had experience with this, PLEASE POST!!!!!
I met my current boyfriend at match.com 19 months ago and I must say that we hit it off right from the begining. The advantage with this dating system is that you know you are meeting somebody who has your same intentions and you dont have to keep wondering whether they are interested in you or not. The disadvntage is that sometimes we think that because you met in such a way you are meant for each other and, unfortunately, it is not always the case( I am going through a relationship crisis right now and this is one of the topics we have discussed). So I would recommend you to have fun and enjoy, be yourself as she must have read your profile and knows what you want+do, etc. But keep in mind that it is only a first date and it will work exactly as any other date you had. GOod luck and keep us informed!x
Great Pat, Glad to hear she shaved before the date and I hope you did too. , just kidding but way to have a good time. Just me though, a thank you note would be a nice touch in a few days. Always be a gentleman with CLASS.
Pat, I so agree with Tal here. Finish the date the way you started it as a gentlemen and follow up with some kind of acknowledgement of the date. IM - Pm whatever M you guys do these days, it would be an incredibly impressive gesture to make some sort of contact. As Tal said, shows Class.
Pat, I so agree with Tal here. Finish the date the way you started it as a gentlemen and follow up with some kind of acknowledgement of the date. IM - Pm whatever M you guys do these days, it would be an incredibly impressive gesture to make some sort of contact. As Tal said, shows Class.
Way to go though. So happy for you Pat!
I was gonna just sit back and wait for her to thank me...haha...no but seriously, I wasn't gonna contact her again until she contacted me.
But since you guys urge me to do so, I'll give her a quick instant message tonight or tomorrow just to see if she got home ok, etc...she drove an hour to meet me.
I'm just trying my best to take the OPPOSITE approach as I have before with girls. I'm all about having fun now, and not really caring about what she thinks or what I'm supposed to do. I'm just so glad that Match.com worked for me and I think that I'll be able to meet many women through that site and improve my social skills since I didn't have a chance to because I was in LT relationship.
One question though- I wouldn't mind seeing this girl again...maybe next weekend or something. Dunno if I should ask her to hang out again or what. I'm actually meeting up with a different girl this weekend! LOL.
One question though- I wouldn't mind seeing this girl again...maybe next weekend or something. Dunno if I should ask her to hang out again or what. I'm actually meeting up with a different girl this weekend! LOL.
You dawg!!! Already have another one on the fishing line huh???? I can not be supporting this...can I ??? LOL. Just kiddn.
Just my opinion here, but it would be nice to check to see if she got home okay. That would be very nice. I understand that you want to do this opposite thing (did you ever see the Sienfeld episode where George did everything opposite with the girls, he actaully made out quite well, but keep in mind that is TV.
All joking aside, the one thing you don't want to loose of yourself, is the caring about others feelings side of you. It is okay to care if she got home okay and express that. You don't want to go to far to the other side either. You don't want to become cold and indifferent. Reaching a nice middle ground would be good and retain who you are in the process.
Enjoy this time!!! Show the ladies (had to use plural since there's another one this weekend LOL ) respect, and finally, this is very important...please....keep their names straight !!! Issue nametags if you must...(just kiddn) Relax you are doing great. Really sounds like she enjoyed herself. Good for you.
I'll be doggone what have we created??????????????Player, player, Mac Daddy. All kidding aside, Go slow and be real.............your REAL self and have bunch of fun. Always remember dating is about FUN and laughng, oh Gosh, I hope I can wait till next week.
LOL, that's right Tal, I'll be doggone as well, did AMHD creat a real DAWG?? Yeh, Pat Macdaddy at your service. Just kiddn Pat. That's what I was trying to say, just couldn't find the words, but Tal did....
Haha thanks everyone! Well, I wouldn't be doing so well now without the support of this community. Lots of good advice here!!!!!
I did tell her to give me a text when she got home if she wanted but I didn't get one so I figured she got home alright. Maybe I'll give her an IM tomorrow and ask just to be courteous like you all suggested.
, just kidding but way to have a good time. Just me though, a thank you note would be a nice touch in a few days. Always be a gentleman with CLASS.
Issue nametags if you must...(just kiddn) Relax you are doing great. Really sounds like she enjoyed herself. Good for you.
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