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Old Jul 20, 2007, 03:46 PM
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Married or not?

I recently met a woman and we hit it off like no other. She had been married for 15yrs and although times were a little ruff she was not separated nor in the middle of a divorce. We bonded and soon became very close friends, next thing we knew we were hanging out, constantly calling each other. We spoke often of her life and what she had to loose, she had never come across anyone like me in her years of marriage. We decided to take it to the next level, always weighing the risks and benefits and she still insisted we continue. She let me in her life and gave herself mind and body, she assured me daily she was extremely happy with what we had formed. It wasn't long enough after it started her husband suspected something and questioned her, he finally found what he was looking for in a phone bill. She was ridiculed and verbally put down as a wife and mother until she had no choice but leave to save face. She admitted to him she made a mistake and she wanted to stay and make things work. My issue is when your married you make things work before you fall in another mans arms, you seek help before you go to another, you make every attempt to save the relationship before you give yourself to another man. It is not after you gave up, gave in and gave out yourself that you say lets make things work. I feel any person who makes a rational choice to break their vows to be with someone else deserves no second chance.

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Old Jul 20, 2007, 04:29 PM   #2  
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First off, what exactly do you mean by "taking it to the next level"? Second, why would you get involved with a married woman? Third, what exactly is it you're asking here? Fourth, what did you expect out of this other then getting hurt and potentially ruining a marriage? I surely hope you know that I'm pretty disappointed in everyone who says they'rein love with someone else when they are married or even when someone says they love someone who is married. Get out and let her be on her marry way.

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Old Jul 21, 2007, 09:25 AM   #3  
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So noble of you to complain about a person after you have led them astray in an unhealthy way, and the best thing you could do is keep your selfish, selfserving A$$ away from the vulnerable confused female. She was good enough to befriend, and good enought to bed, but not good enough for your continued interest, since now she really needs a friend. That makes you an evil idiot, who played on a helpless person to use them, and then kick 'em to the curb when your done.
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I feel any person who makes a rational choice to break their vows to be with someone else deserves no second chance.
Funny you say that after you got what you wanted.

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Old Jul 21, 2007, 09:37 AM   #4  
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You are quite a gem, to knowingly enter into an illicit relationship with a married woman, enjoy her company as only her husband would, and then lodge a complaint against her.

If she was not able to say when you two took things "to another level" then why weren't you the noble and valiant man protecting her married honor?

You are a pig.

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Old Jul 21, 2007, 06:06 PM   #5  
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I agree wholeheartedly. It's a shame you had to learn it the way you did but you are right nevertheless.
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