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im messing with a married man . he tells me everyday he loves me, he calls me everyday. please tell me do he really loves me.he also, bought me a promise ring for christmas . tell me what that mean.
im messing with a married man . he tells me everyday he loves me, he calls me everyday. please tell me do he really loves me.he also, bought me a promise ring for christmas . tell me what that mean.
What that means is that he wants you to hang around while he has the benefits of being married and having a lover. He knows you are not going to look elsewhere if you believe he loves you and gives you a ring. Stop seeing him for awhile and see how much he loves you. If he does love you as much as he says, then he NEEDS to make the changes and become available to you in all senses of the word and ways. You deserve better.
That right there is trouble. He shouldn't have to offer you with gifts to let you know he loves you. He shouldn't be doing this to his wife either.....Becareful, do what's best for you kiddo....
sorry example- I was in the same situation when I was seeing a married woman 4 years ago.
She told me so many times how she was going to end it and that she cared and loved me. At first when this all started, I thought this guy desrved it and I was the one to rescue her from his evilness..I came to find out I was wrong and I was starting to feel really guilty. It went like that for another month and she kept on making excuses..I finally ended it and never looked back.. She kept calling me about for two weeks and I did not give in. Few months past, I hear she's having a baby. I heard that her and the husband bought a new house..The baby came, it wasn't his. It was his teenage brothers baby.Now she's with the brother.. I'm so glad I ended that!!! I'm just saying that I did love her but that was the best move I ever made and I am so happy I am not in that situation...Beautiful Diva, this is one of the reasons why I am cautious now...
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It means that he's a conniving cheat and you shouldn't be wasting your time with him! How would you like it if that were your husband fooling around with someone else and buying her "promise rings" for Christmas? The only thing he's going to "promise" you is a broken heart so I'd bail out now. Run and don't look back.
Your both lying cheating people and probably deserve one another.
I pity you for hopeing that he loves you. You want the love of a liar. I suppose though that is what you deserve.
Sorry to sound harsh but you are involved in something that isnt right and lots of people will get hurt.
Stop seeing him now. Find someone who is single. find someone you can trust and has respect enough for you not to be married to another women but also fool around with you. And that is all he is doing. Fooling around. I doubt he loves you. I doubt he would leave his wife for you.
Can you honestly ever trust this man? Can you respect this man?
If the answer is yes then you have no self respect!
Let me see a man who has no morals but will leave his wifes bed in the morning after having sex with her, and he comes to you ( I wonder if he takes a shower) and then sleeps with you. He lies to his wife about loving her and you can beleive he loves you ???? Come on, you don't really, or you would not be asking.
You are extra sex, different sex or worst than that a trophy to prove he still has his "old" charm.
Ask him when he is going to tell his wife about you and leave her, or just tell him don't worry you have already sent her all the facts so he can be free to be with you.
If you really want something out of it, tell him you got photos and that for a few more rings, you won't send them to the wife.
If you are going to lower yourself to one immoral act you may as well go alittle further and actually get something out of it.
( not really want you to black mail him but trying to make a point)
I want you to know I am one of the wives whose husband cheated with a one or more women just like you. Let me tell you something sweetie. I left him a few times and each time he grew sick of the girlfriend and came crawling back..Because of the situation I was in and my low self esteem at the time, I took him back ..and guess what!! He did it again. Thankfully, I woke up and am no longer with him. I am a different woman today. You, my dear, are in for a rude awakening. Once a cheater, always a cheater no matter who they are with. That I can assure you. I feel so sorry for that mans wife. She does not deserve what is happening to her and if she has children their whole world could come crashing down around them. It is the most devastating thing that could happen to a family. The pain involved when a partner has an affair cannot be explained in words. She doesnt know so therefore she is not being given the opportunity to make a choice in her life. You do have a choice. You get out now and leave that family be. Yes you may be hurt but you made the decision to sleep with a another womans husband. You have the power to do the right thing. Do not put that woman or those children through that heartache. He will most likely cheat again but at least it wont be you who caused the destruction. Please do what is right. He will never be what you think he will be. You always want what you cant have. Take my advice.
I want you to know I am one of the wives whose husband cheated with a one or more women just like you. Let me tell you something sweetie. I left him a few times and each time he grew sick of the girlfriend and came crawling back..Because of the situation I was in and my low self esteem at the time, I took him back ..and guess what!! He did it again. Thankfully, I woke up and am no longer with him. I am a different woman today. You, my dear, are in for a rude awakening. Once a cheater, always a cheater no matter who they are with. That I can assure you. I feel so sorry for that mans wife. She does not deserve what is happening to her and if she has children their whole world could come crashing down around them. It is the most devastating thing that could happen to a family. The pain involved when a partner has an affair cannot be explained in words. She doesnt know so therefore she is not being given the opportunity to make a choice in her life. You do have a choice. You get out now and leave that family be. Yes you may be hurt but you made the decision to sleep with a another womans husband. You have the power to do the right thing. Do not put that woman or those children through that heartache. He will most likely cheat again but at least it wont be you who caused the destruction. Please do what is right. He will never be what you think he will be. You always want what you cant have. Take my advice.
This is one of the best repsonses i have read to a poster aksing advice here at AMHD since i have been a member. It comes from experience but also offers a great solution to the problem.
I really hope the original poster comes back and reads this post so she can see the damage that she WILL cause to another person!!
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