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i've been messing with a married guy for the last 3 yrs...and even tho i know he's married i love him and i believe he loves me...i put up wih his crap, but he doesn't want me to date/talk to another man even tho he's married and lives with his wife...i tried to leave him a few times, but he ends up buying me back....why is he so selfish? why can't i have someone on the side too? how do i leave him for good?
You were a victim. But by not doing anything, you are an enabler. You are part of the problem. You have a choice:
You can continue to have the affair.
You can try to break things off secretly and sweep your affair under the rug.
You can tell him to break things off with his wife if he wants to be with you.
You can come clean by confessing everything to his wife so everybody can move on.
Think about it: Which is the un-selfish decision for you???
BTW: You are not married to this guy, or to his wife. They are married to eachother. The quality of their marriage, and their ability to reconcile is their issue. They said vows to eachother sealing that deal. Do not allow yourself to feel any guilt if you choose to tell her everything.
he's calling my moms house looking for me...she said he's called three times until she answered....and he's crying to her now... bunch of bull!! i am going to call the hotline tomorrow morning...i want him to leave me alone...i want to go on with my life
Yeah you do that. Leve him alone. Don't let him drag you down anymore. Hang in there.
he's calling my moms house looking for me...she said he's called three times until she answered....and he's crying to her now... bunch of bull!! i am going to call the hotline tomorrow morning...i want him to leave me alone...i want to go on with my life
This guy is a creep!!! If he is crying now to your mother as well he will stoop to anything to keep his play thing. When he finally gets to see you DON"T believe a word he says , he will undoubtly make outragous promises etc. to try to persuade you to change your mind . DONT LISTEN TO HIM!!!! Be strong sweety and get your self out of this mess NOW!!!
We are all here for you. Good Luck!
thank you guys soooooo much....i am tired of falling for his lies, for him period....i turned the phone off for the night...i blocked him from sending IM'S....i want nothing to do with...but what about tomorrow when he comes by? he has a key to my place...my brother said he will change my locks this weekend?
Good girl , DONT FALL FOR THE LIES!! Because thats what he'll have coming at you now. He will go to all the desperate measures available believe me. I suggest you don't be there tomorrow , is that a possibility? And yes definately get those locks changed.
friend...i am running like heck in the morning....thank you...and homegirl i am going to pay my granny a visit for a few days....thanks for the advice guys
i saw him guys!!! i was picking my daughter up from school...he ran right up to me and grabbed my arm....i was thrown off at first and after my heart stopped racing i told him OFF! big time.... he said he would leave me alone if i had dinner with him tonight...yeah right!! he used that one before.... he pays my rent each and every month and helps with my car note every other month...so he said he would still pay up my rent for this year, no strings attached...altho i want to believe him i know i cant....he has a relationship with my daugher and she really loves him...she asked him was he going to take her to see Dora this weekend...he put it on me...now i look like the bad guy....and he knows she is going to bug me until i give in...what should i do?...
DO NOT GIVE IN. He is trying to emotionally blackmail you. Tell your daughter that you know how much she likes John but that he isn't going to be around anymore and that it doesn't mean he doesnt' care about her its just something that happened between mommy and him. End of story.
Good for you in telling him off. I have to say that you will get rid of this man if you don't start taking over the things that he has power over. Whats next? See me or I stop paying your rent and you're out on the street? Take over your bills and eliminate his power in this relationship. If you can't afford your place move. If you can't afford the car trade it in for one you can afford.
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