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i've been messing with a married guy for the last 3 yrs...and even tho i know he's married i love him and i believe he loves me...i put up wih his crap, but he doesn't want me to date/talk to another man even tho he's married and lives with his wife...i tried to leave him a few times, but he ends up buying me back....why is he so selfish? why can't i have someone on the side too? how do i leave him for good?
He ends up buying you back? Are you serious? I'm sorry I'm trying very hard to not judge you right now but it sounds as if you have no backbone.
Of course this guy is selfish he is married and cheating on his wife with you. He doesn't want you to see anyone else because he is selfish.
How do you leave him? you decide that you can't be bought. you decide that you might actually love yourself just a little bit more then him. you grow a backbone and decide that you are worth more then being someone's whore.
Why is he so selfish? -----> He is having his cake and eating it too.
Get out of this relationship as fast a you can! I am surprised that you have tolerated it for as long as you have. You are filling yourself up with false promises the longer you stay in this situation. He clearly has no desire to leave what he has for you, you are better than that!
The hardest thing for you to do is go "cold turkey" immediately.......walk away and NEVER look back. He can chase you or even try to "buy" you back again.....ignore him. He will not give you that big of a fight. He has alot to lose here......
Spend your time healing and improving yourself.....you will eventually forget about this.........also never go into a situation where you are "the other person" it never works out, EVER!
I've been messing with a married guy for the last 3 yrs...and even tho i know he's married i love him and i believe he loves me...i put up with his crap, but he doesn't want me to date/talk to another man even tho he's married and lives with his wife...i tried to leave him a few times, but he ends up buying me back....why is he so selfish? why can't i have someone on the side too? how do i leave him for good?
Why is he so selfish? - Because you have given him license to be. He can have his cake and eat it too.
How do you leave him for good? - Start caring about yourself, realize that you are messing with some body's husband and you are wasting yourself with a man who is basically buying you. Get some self esteem. Karma is a "B" so you'd better be real careful.
When you get tired of being a paid piece of tail, a booty call, you will leave.
Girl if that man loved you, he would leave you alone so you could have a healthy relationship. He he loved you, he would be yours. Love has nothing to do with this. You are being used. Do you want to spend the rest of life being the other woman , with a man that belongs to someone else?
Wow. You discust me. Women like you discust me. Don't you know that he gets it from you but he will always be going back to her. She is his comfort zone, and his love lies with her. Get over it, you're his, but he will never be yours.
i am not mad at you leiden....thats real talk and a real eye opener....i want to leave him, and i have b4, but he always seem to get me back....i feel bad for his wife and son often...he cries for me not to leave him...and i fall for it over and over again....he's much older than me, and thats an advantage for him....he's 24ys older than me....
But you realize its all manipulation though right? Its part of the married man/mistress game for him to beg the mistress to leave to end his pain of loving her and his wife and being torn or whatever the lame statement is.
This man is sucking your freedom. This man is preventing you from getting healthy and getting into a healthy relationship.
Cut out contact with him. Change your phone number. Move. Do whatever it takes.
In my personal opinion women who get wrapped up in affairs have some very serious self-esteem, boundary, self-worth and intimacy issues. In order to insure that once you leave this guy you stay away and don't get wrapped up in another affair you need to seek some professional counseling.
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Do you think this is all you deserve? Some pathetic scraps of love and attention? Do you have any love for yourself at all?
I hope he is paying plenty of money, I am not sure what the going rate is for the local hookers but you need to be sure he is paying up enough for his romp in the park with you.
Oh my god this guy really knows how to play with your emotions, he has your sympathy on his family. He is only out for a "good time", he has no real emotional attachment to you or even any long term plans for that matter. You need do walk away from this as fast as you can, before you destroy yourself even more. You are losing pieces of who you really are as you go.........stop the pain NOW!
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