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i've been messing with a married guy for the last 3 yrs...and even tho i know he's married i love him and i believe he loves me...i put up wih his crap, but he doesn't want me to date/talk to another man even tho he's married and lives with his wife...i tried to leave him a few times, but he ends up buying me back....why is he so selfish? why can't i have someone on the side too? how do i leave him for good?
I don't think you should accept his gift of rent and a car payment. It's just one more excuse for you to go back to him! If need be, seek government assistance until you get back on your feet. You need to cut ALL ties with him if you truly want him out of your life.
Don't you dare fall for that. You tell him thanks but no thanks. Your daughter does not need to grow up seeing this as an acceptable way of life for women. If she gets mad tough. You're the mom and you have every right to say No! You both need to be away from this creep.
he's bad news guys...what a jerk!! he just had my cell phone turned off...now the old me would call and try to make up with him to get my phone back on...but i am still hanging in there tho....i am pissed that he went there but i guess i should have suspected it...i tried talking with my kid, but she doesnt understand....this is going to be harder than i thought!! i am feeling worn out from all of this...i called the help line for some support but i still feel a little off track...he's telling me that he BETTER NOT see me with another man, or else he's going to 'f' both of us up!! so many men are killing their girlfriends/wives and ex's today...and to be honest i am scared...
I know this is going to be hard, but you can do this, you must do this. You don't want your daughter growing up in this atmosphere. Document everything he says to you. You can get an oder of protection against him.
Does his wife know about you?
i've been messing with a married guy for the last 3 yrs...and even tho i know he's married i love him and i believe he loves me...i put up wih his crap, but he doesn't want me to date/talk to another man even tho he's married and lives with his wife...i tried to leave him a few times, but he ends up buying me back....why is he so selfish? why can't i have someone on the side too? how do i leave him for good?
AGB disagreed with an earlier post of mine. He said it isn't fair to hurt the wife to make yourself feel better. In principle, I agree.
But, if you go to the police and file for a personal protection order, the wife will eventually find out the truth. The point of my previous post is to confess, tell the truth to anybody who needs to hear it, and don't worry about any fallout it may create. Any damage that has been done is the responsibility of the husband and the wife to fix.
But that's just my opinion. There's a lot of good ones on this site!
At this point, I think she should concentrate on saving herself. The possibility of telling the wife could either keep her safe or get her in harms way. Right now I would concentrate on packing up if you can't afford the apt by yourself. Perhaps they have a smaller apt in same building? Also, take him off the lease. If you can't afford the car by yourself, trade it in. If he is on bank accounts, take him off. Same with credit cards, etc. It is nice to have people take care of you, but when they do there are always strings attached. Cut his strings. He is an A$$.
yes we saw one another a year ago....she pleaded with me to stop seeing him then...but i was being selfish at the time....i dont want to open any old wounds for her by going to the cops...their going to go to his home and she will know he never stopped messing with me...
But do you think its fair to give him a cop out on threatening you multiple times? He needs to know that you aren't messing around now. Believe me. The wife would be thankful to know that you are done with him AND that he is acting in this manner. Who knows maybe she will become a friend after this whole ordeal.
The stones on this guy. I can't believe to threaten you in that manner. He shut your phone off to get your attention so you would call him begging to turn it back on.
Like everyone said document everything. Write down dates & times and what happened. If you have a record of him acting like a nutjob it can only help you.
One more thing, if he calls you...tape record it and don't let him know. Get one of those little ones. That way if you need proof for the protection order that he threatend you, you have it. Also it could serve as proof that he is still contacting you even after you told him to buzz off...good proof for the wife. Good luck sweetie. Stay strong.
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