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Old Feb 28, 2008, 05:23 AM
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Married 20 years but thinking about first love

Ok I know this is wrong, I think I kinda need someone to tell me it's wrong! Here it goes.
I was 16 and dated my first love, we always said we were 'soulmates' we broke up as young do, don't know why really something to do with different schools. Anyway, I had moved away and 2 years later feel in love with another man. I married him after 3 months of knowing him. I kinda never go over my first love though. Some how he had found out that I got married. We seen each other in a store, we made eye contact and then moved on (we were both with our others). Well that was like 19 years ago. We made contact about 5 years ago talked on the phone, but his girlfriend at the time got upset and we stopped talking at the time (Which was ok because we didn't want to hurt our relationships) So just the other day we seen each other again. He is in a different relationship and I am still married. So we talked. We have been talking just as friends on the phone for the past 2 weeks. But I feel guilty because I feel like I am letting my family and husband down but "day dreaming" about him. I have finally decided that I need to break the conversations between us again for my sanities sake. I don't want to hurt anyone. I really don't know what I want. I am married with three great children, have a great home and my own business with my husband. I know I would lose alot if I let my temptions take over. Please help me.. Am I doing the right thing?

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Old Feb 28, 2008, 06:01 AM   #2  
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Im 27, I WAS engaged and also have a daughter with my soulmate but i took that step that you are afraid to take. (she calls me a risk taker) I am now living with my mom and i cry every night because i miss her and the family atmosphere so much. You have something that i always wanted and still going to try and find and that is a family. love your family. dont miss out on the I LOVE YOU'S. Look your husband in the eyes, give him a hug and tell him how much you miss him. PRIDE SUCKS!!! Hope this helps

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The only right thing you can do, is stop the contact, and remove yourself from this situation, by leaving the lost love alone. Go back, and love your family.
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