Makes me feel I am so boring

He just wants to respond to you in the bedroom. Mmhmm...

Talaniman: You want to know how she knows the answer? Read her other posts. Same questions -- same answers.

Don't break up with people by sending emails or text messages.
It's not respectful.
No matter what your feelings may be.
Keep your standards high.
In situations like this an email or text message is not classy.

Good luck

I need a break, I answered all her other posts with pretty much the same advice. Thanks for the wake up call AW.

AW, T-Man, everyone else on these posts and especially YOU Exquisite.

I have read through all of Exquisite's posts. Honey, this guy only wants sex from you because you are MARRIED! You have quite effectively left that little piece of info out of your posts, except the immigration question you posted that I found.

I am hazarding a guess that he is married as well, and my dear, you are breaking the rules of the extramarital affair etiquette by demanding more than a slap and tickle romp. Stop tormenting the guy already. Stop asking him for more of his time. He doesn't have it to give. He doesn't want to spend any more time with you than he already is. He doesn't want to text message or e-mail you all day long. He just wants you to be available when he can steal some time and get away for some afternoon delight. He is looking for a piece on the side, nothing more. That is what you are to him. That is why the guy never tried chasing you when you first broke up with him. He doesn't give a dam(sp). If you are available for some sex, fine. If you aren't, fine. That is what is going through his mind.

What the heck are you looking for? Are you going to divorce your husband for this guy? Start concentrating on your husband or get a freakin' divorce. But, whatever you do, stop driving everyone here nuts with the same questions over and over again. Your boyfriend is not willing to give you any more of his time than he is already giving. End of story. So, make a decision on what you want to do about it and stop asking these silly teenage questions, over and over again. Sheesh!

In any given situation, if mind is unsettled, stop for awhile and think....do you really have to stoop so low to lose all your dignity? Pay heed to the above posts and act wisely.

Thank you all...there was actually no relationship outside the bedroom and all your advises proved so very true. The moment I said no to sex, he disappeared from the scene.

Move on girl, but you ask whether you should write or tell him face to face that he doesn't respect you?? Don't bother telling him! He already knows how he feels, and he will probably just try to manipulate you again if you do! Remember when he said that it was all your fault that he doesn't reply to your messages because you are turning him off..?? Classic manipulation, girlfriend, he completely put you where he wanted you - you started a conversation about his behaviour, but he flipped it all around leaving you confused and feeling guilty, while he didn't have to take responsibility for his actions. Do you really want that again? There is no hope for this "relationship". Just move on - don't reply to messages or calls, especially not booty calls! He probably won't even notice - guaranteed he's got other women he's stringing along for sex, too. If he does say something (when one of these other women aren't giving him what he wants), just smile and say you don't know what he's talking about. You've every right to move on and you don't owe him an explanation for anything.