Is it true that you can't love another again until you're completely healed from a previous relationship? I'm wondering because I hear people say on this forum that's normal to sometimes take up to a year to get over a long term relationship. And some even longer. I can't imagine not getting out there and atleast trying to date around before then. And if you were with someone for a significant amount of time and very much loved the person, won't you always feel a certain amount of love for that person for the rest of your life. Do you really need to be completely out of love with an ex to be able to love another?

For example, my friend's marriage broke up after 10 years together. She very much loved her ex and was hurt and cried for about 3 months. About 7 months after her divorce she met and fell in love with a new guy. She still had very unsettled feelings with her ex (ie. love, anger, sadness) but somehow she managed to love the new guy and now they've been together for 5 years.

So, I'm just wondering what your thoughts are? I don't want to rush myself, but the idea of having to be COMPLETELY out of love with my ex before being able to give my heart to someonelse seems like it would take a really really long time.

bigbird213

thats the spirit