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I met this man over twenty years ago and I was already married. He and I worked together during this time and he fell in love with me. I believe I felt the same way, but I was committed to my marriage. He eventually got married, but we never stopped talking and eventually we told each other how we felt. We were both married and had children. We never did anything but talk. Now, I am divorced and he and I are talking again. He is still married, but we can't go more than two hours without talking. This love we have for each other is the strongest bond I have ever known, except with my children. I feel like a bad person because I can't stop loving him. I have never cheated on my husband and he has never cheated on his wife, but we want to be together. We don't want to hurt his wife because she is a wonderful person and they have had a pretty good marriage. My marriage was awful. We don't know what to do. Any suggestions.
You do not know what to do? He is married for crying out loud! So you want to become the mistress here and the other woman in this triangle? If his wife is such a wonderful woman, what does that make you? He sounds like a schmuck and if you go firther, you are too. I would let call this off before any further harm is done. Once you move on, perhaps he will get back to paying attention to his "wonderful wife", or else he will find another woman to fall for his story.
Hi sizetack. Did your marriage fall apart because you wre thinking about this other man all the time or was it gone from the start? There's a lot to consider here because it sounds like you're lonely now and all this new affection is driving you where you shouldn't go. Remember there are kids to consider and like you said a real nice woman to hurt if you start seeing each other. He may never want to leave his wife and then you're still stuck with nothing. Why don't you just remain friends and see if there is someone out there that can really make you happy.
You stop talking with him completely, perilod, if and when he is ready to divorce and leave his wife and kids ( and then not hate you for it) he can come to you.
he is having both worlds and is already cheating emotionally on his wife, and it needs to stop.
If you back out of this, he will go back to his wife where he should be.
I met this man over twenty years ago and I was already married. He and I worked together during this time and he fell in love with me. I believe I felt the same way, but I was committed to my marriage. He eventually got married, but we never stopped talking and eventually we told each other how we felt. We were both married and had children. We never did anything but talk. Now, I am divorced and he and I are talking again. He is still married, but we can't go more than two hours without talking. This love we have for each other is the strongest bond I have ever known, except with my children. I feel like a bad person because I can't stop loving him. I have never cheated on my husband and he has never cheated on his wife, but we want to be together. We don't want to hurt his wife because she is a wonderful person and they have had a pretty good marriage. My marriage was awful. We don't know what to do. Any suggestions.
Sometimes you have to sacrifice one love for another. If he leaves his wife for you, imagine her heartbreak. I had a friend that had a breakdown for the reason of his wife leaving him for another man. You have to put yourself in her shoes to know the pain she would feel.
the greatest thing in life is to be love and loving back. is it?
i completely agree..that when ur in this condition...u wont think that being in love with a married man is a complete sin or whatever it is, right?
first of all..u have to know the difference between love and lust...some people..even lots of people..has misunderstanding between those two..and thats the most important part!
lust = 1) Intense or unrestrained sexual craving, or 2) An overwhelming desire or craving. while love = love without condition, motive or attachment. see what i mean?
look within urself..i know its damn hard...but which is you? lust or love?
its true that love will always lead to lust....but lust will not always lead to love...
do u have a motive towards him?
do u said that u love him but u never think of his position within his own family?
think clearly...ur a moral example for ur children...i quote this from Silent Hill's movie, that a mother is a God in the eyes of her children.
You need to break off contact since you have no respect for the boundries of marraige. Get your life together and enjoy being single and let go of the need to be selfish and intrude on someone elses husband. You are so wrong and I hope you can see that you need to get a life and leave his alone.
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