why do ex girlfriends want to stay friends?

lonely23 · #1 Oct 28, 2007, 07:31 PM

I need to know

AKaeTrue · Oct 28, 2007, 07:40 PM

It depends on the situation...
Some really mean it because the genuinely like you as a person, but not as a boyfriend...
Others will say it as an easy let down...

needofhelp · Oct 28, 2007, 08:05 PM

Woman and men are wired a bit different. Woman can fall out of love as fast as they fall in love, so when their feelings are gone, they can be friends. Guys on the other hand, take time to develop intense feelings and its harder for us to jump from being a couple to just being friends.

As akaetrue said, it's also an easy let down, not to look like a b^tch. This can also hold true for guys.

Keatts16 · Oct 28, 2007, 09:30 PM

Ex girlfriends want to stay friends for several reasons. 1) They are trying to let you down easily. 2) They really value your friendship. 3) You are a big part of their lefe and if your not in it there is an gaping hole where you used to be. I know because my boyfriend and I broke up 2 1/2 weeks ago and the last 2 are 100 % true fore me.

needofhelp · Oct 28, 2007, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Keatts16

Ex girlfriends want to stay friends for several reasons. 1) They are trying to let you down easily. 2) They really value your friendship. 3) You are a big part of their lefe and if your not in it there is an gaping hole where you used to be. I know because my boyfriend and I broke up 2 1/2 weeks ago and the last 2 are 100 % true fore me.

If the last two are true, then why break up with that person? Is it because it's not the knight in shining armor myth that people love?

It's somewhat unfair to want to be friends, when the other person is in a whole world of pain. I'm not saying it can't happen, but sometimes its too soon, and after some time of healing, maybe friendship might be a possibility.

Clough · Oct 28, 2007, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by lonely23

I need to know

I really like things that I am seeing in the above answers! And, I would like to add just one more thing. I would like to know why you are asking the question, if you don't mind my asking, please?

needofhelp · Oct 28, 2007, 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Clough

I really like things that I am seeing in the above answers! And, I would like to add just one more thing. I would like to know why you are asking the question, if you don't mind my asking, please?

I hope you don't believe that being friends is a sign of getting back together. I'm not saying it can't happen, but don't do it because you think it will lead to that.

Clough · Oct 28, 2007, 10:52 PM

I was referring to the original poster's question and I wasn't saying that I agreed with everything in the answers that there have been so far. Just that I really like things that I was reading. People were trying to be helpful. That was the main, good thing. I wasn't taking a stand in the form of an opinion on any certain answer.

I think that lonely23 might have some other issues that perhaps could be shared as to why the question was asked in the first place.

Clough · Oct 29, 2007, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Clough

I really like things that I am seeing in the above answers! And, I would like to add just one more thing. I would like to know why you are asking the question, if you don't mind my asking, please?

Again, I would like to ask the question above.

Sad Soul · Oct 29, 2007, 04:34 AM

I think being friends is a way to hold on. Although, this could cause confusion for the ex who is still in love.



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