i love him. i love him not!

chally · #1 Apr 6, 2007, 09:27 PM

sorry its kinda long but i would really appreciate your advice

i have had this boyfriend on and off for years now...we just recently got back together but im not sure how long this is going to last...i love this guy more than life its self and cant stand not to be with him hes attractive, very kind and generous reasonsible and would do anything in the world for me ....but at the same time i cant stand to see his face, he gets extremley annoying, and some what imature, he gets the worst attitudes, he basicly just irritates me so bad!! it sounds really selfish of me to think this way but i do. so we date, i gt irritated, i break up with him, we dont talk for weeks i call him and we do it all over again. and its really killing me because i love him... i m just stuck...i dont know if im " in " love with him or i cant stand him, it changes everyday, i have kinda told him how i feel but i dont know how to exlpain this to him without hurting his feelings....what should i do??

Jesushelper76 · Apr 7, 2007, 12:23 AM

Break up with him and break up with him for good.

Your just playing games with this guy and you need to stop.

You do not really love this person, you love the attention this person gives you but that is all it is. Nothing else.

Joe

lilah_k · Apr 7, 2007, 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by chally

sorry its kinda long but i would really appreciate your advice

i have had this boyfriend on and off for years now...we just recently got back together but im not sure how long this is going to last...i love this guy more than life its self and cant stand not to be with him hes attractive, very kind and generous reasonsible and would do anything in the world for me ....but at the same time i cant stand to see his face, he gets extremley annoying, and some what imature, he gets the worst attitudes, he basicly just irritates me so bad!! it sounds really selfish of me to think this way but i do. so we date, i gt irritated, i break up with him, we dont talk for weeks i call him and we do it all over again. and its really killing me because i love him... i m just stuck...i dont know if im " in " love with him or i cant stand him, it changes everyday, i have kinda told him how i feel but i dont know how to exlpain this to him without hurting his feelings....what should i do??

I think loving someone is loving everything about them. Even all the annoying details about the person that are suppose to irritate you, some how you end up adoring them. For example my boyfriend always farts in reality its gross but somehow it always ends up making me laugh and i love it. i know it's gross. but my point is you just LOVE that person and everything ABOUT THEM.

So it seems to me that you love hating him more then you love loving him and yes it's not fair to him. I agree with Jesushelper76 break up with him or except him for who he is.