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    meshoman Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 27, 2007, 03:49 AM
    I love a girl, and she keep telling me she loves me as friends.
    Hi,
    Strange that I am telling my feeling online , anyway, I am 22 , I am in love with a girl from about 1 year ago, and she was also in love with me, then after some issues (normal problems) happen between each other, she told me she don't love me anymore , she love me as a friends, I said okay, and we still talking to each other, I though I might change her idea about being a friend , or actually I couldn't believe that she stopee love me (it is not a key), but with now luck, she still keep telling me I love you very muchhhhhhhh as friends and nothing more, I told her I can engage you if you want, she said, NO, that will never happean and stop thinking that we will be in love again , or I will never talk to you again..!

    You can't imagine what I did to make her love me, I did everything, and she knows that I love her so much, and she knows that no one will never love her as much as I do..

    She is also saying, I am the best person she ever known, and she care about me so much, and one day I told her I will stop talking to you, she went crazy, but all of what I am saying, she must add the end of any sentence (I love you as a friend) :(

    Another part, one day from about 2 months , I know that all her family want her to get engaged , but she don't want now, anyway , she said that she asked her Best friend to engage her, just in front of al her family to stop asking her to get engaged..!

    I think they are in love I don't know what to do ?
    I am not sure of this but I think they are in love?
    She keeps telling me (even if we are in love it has nothing to do with you), and keeping telling me (that she and her best friend not in love) they will just acting and then nothing will happean more..

    I don't know what to do?
    How I win her back, I love her so much??

    Please don't say forget her or something because if that easy I wouldn't ask on the internet for advise?
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    Mar 28, 2007, 11:33 AM
    This lady is messing with your head and apparently doing a good job at it. Don't waist your life chasing someone who doesn't want you. When love is a mutal thing it's wonderful, but when it is one sided people can get hurt when they don't cut their loses and move on. Ask yourself this question. Why don't I want to be with someone who wants and love me.
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    Mar 28, 2007, 11:41 AM
    She doesn't want to be in a relationship with you but she wants you by her side. If you tell her that you're leaving, she goes crazy, but she wants to keep you at a distance. She will bring you close when she wants and pushes you away when she wants. She doesn't care how difficult it is for you.

    You need to be a man and walk away. You don't have to tell her that you're leaving, just do it. Don't call her, don't return her calls, don't contact her in any way. If she calls, either don't answer or tell her not to call back. Tell her that you are going to respect her wishes to not be together again as a couple, but that you must move on. Tell her that you cannot be just her friend and since she is engaged to her best friend, you will go out and find another who loves you as much as you love her. Once you say that, you have to mean it. You cannot go back. If you do, she will never respect you. Many on this site have said that a person wants what they can't have. She's using you and she's getting in the way of you moving on with your life. But, you are allowing it. I know you think that you will never find another like her, and you probably won't. But you don't want someone like her, you want better. You want someone who wants to be with you and marry you and have your 12 kids!

    Move on.
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    Mar 28, 2007, 01:01 PM
    She has been quite honest and adamant in her talks with you so you can waste time, effort, and a lot of emotion trying the impossible, winning her back, or accept this relationship as over and move on. Sorry not what you want to hear, but the truth. Take momincali's very wise advice and save yourself a lot of useless heartache.
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    Mar 28, 2007, 01:32 PM
    I think this girl is being quite clear that she likes you only as a friend.

    You have to accept that she is not interested in you in a romantic way. If you can't be "just friends", do as Momincall says and walk away.
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    Mar 28, 2007, 03:25 PM
    Thank you all for your comments, iknow it will sound very familiar and many said what I am saying now: every time I plan to tell her that we have to stop talking and to move on on my life, I simple can't, I am happy that we are talking and happy that I hear her voice everyday,I know it is stupid, because one day I won't find her beside me?

    The problem that the idea of leaving her for ever hard for me.

    Anyway, the mind saying to leave her, heart saying don't
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    Mar 28, 2007, 03:56 PM
    Tell the heart to shut up, and listen to the mind.
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    Mar 28, 2007, 04:22 PM
    Tal, short and sweet as usual. No, not you short and sweet, your answer, short and sweet. Not that you being short and sweet would be bad, short and sweet is good, very good... ummm, okay, I'm leaving.
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    Mar 28, 2007, 06:44 PM
    LOL mom LOL, I understand
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    Mar 29, 2007, 05:26 AM
    Man you have glutton for punishment.

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