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I am in love with my boss. He's all I think about. The problem is he's in a relationship and our employment situation is such that it would be frowned upon ethically if we started seeing one another as I am apprentice and he is my sponsor (professionally speaking). His relationship is kind of on the rocks but I think they are scrambling to save it. I hate to wish their relationship fails but I have no choice other than to sit back and do nothing and it's killing me. Any suggestions on what I should do?
Have a crush on the boss if you want, but please don't expect anything to come of it. A lot of people won't think it's appropriate, possibly including him.
And more importantly, if he is in a relationship, you need to stand back and leave him alone. Even if it's on the rocks, you can't expect anything to happen. You'd be best to go out and meet some more eligible guys. Leave that one for his girlfriend and try to maintian a professional relationship.
You don't need the heartache of getting involved with a man in a relationship OR your boss. Have you thought of what could happen?? Really, hon, it's not the best of situations.
Work-place romances at the least are confusing and complicated... do you like what you do?? Then seriously, don't go after your boss.
Part of the reason you are attracted to him is because he is your boss AND because he's in a relationship. Like the forbidden fruit. Subconsciously, he's a better man because you can't have him.
Anyway, someone said it earlier. That's a big no-no in 2 ways. You need to seek elsewhere, and fast. Search craigslist, yahoo personals, go out to a bar... ANYTHING! You should stop spending 100% of your attention on a guy that you dont even know for sure you'd get anyway.
These types of relationships seldom work out well and
1. if he was seeing you on the side, what would stop him from seeing someone else on the side from you.
2. he is with someone, till he breaks up he is not free
3. dating a boss is almost always a bad idea.
If he was to be free and you want to date, go to work somewhere else and then date him.
She stands a higher rate of survival having a crush on a married man, him leaving his wife, and them sailing off into the sunset together, than she does of this working out.
Don't you think? This, like so many other relationships, has to have your intuition screaming out at you.
The nature of my employment is that it's temporary. Within the next 6 months I won't be working there anymore as it was stipulated in my contract that my employment was only for the term of my apprenticeship.
I won't do anything with him unless he is single. That was the issue. I had thought he was single but apparently was misinformed. I thought his wife had left him a few months ago. Then he told me that the office gossip was not quite correct and that the wife had moved out but that they were still involved.
He is behaving properly and this is what makes me think he is worth having. Now it's too late to undo having told him my feelings for him. All I can do is try not to think about him I guess. I didn't put enough detail in my original post to show the entire picture I guess, but the conclusion is the same nevertheless. He's still taken til he's single and I've got some months of getting over this disappointment.
You start off by saying he is behaving properly, I disagree. Behaving properly does not involve sharing information about your personal life with your staff ever!
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