Wow I shouldnt even be feeling pain like this, I am so use to it! Anyways it all started 15 months ago and like alot of heart ache and problems it started with a girl. We hooked up at a bar but I knew her before hand. She use to be with a guy I knew back in highschool and since I line in such a small town..I ran into her again. Anyways to make a long story short..I fell in love with her badly! I would of forfeit my life for her. We had a very awesome relationship. We went places I took her on vacations with me. We were always doing things and just living life and having a great time doing so. The thing is she would lie to me over and over, she would like about little things like not having any money to pay bills (We lived together) and lieing about bigger things like the reason she didnt have money is because she lent it to her brother. And there was alot more lies as time went on. An the trust I had for her seemed to fade away. We started to go in debt and she was pulling me in debt badly. So i told her we need to take a break and you need to think about things, So she was going to move into her Parents and I got me a studio apartment for really cheap. We were still seeing each other even though it felt like we were miles away from each other when we were in the same room. It went on like that for about 2 weeks. Then one day she calls me over saying she miss's me and she loves me and wants to see me. So i went over to her house and when i walked up to the door another guy walks out wearing nothing buy his underwear. He see's me and he must of knew who I was because he jumped off the porch and ran off into the sunset! Then she walks out wearing a Bra and some sweat shorts and she tells me "I just wanted to break your heart like you did to me." At that point I felt soo weak my melted and shattered and fell down into my shoes. I had to sit down right then and there on the porch because my legs couldnt hold me up (And I am a skinny guy). And now that I know its over and there is no way I can ever go back to her and for it to be the same between us. I meen she has 2 kids with 2 different guys I should of known from that alone! That was two major red flags! But love is love no matter the situation. And now I am all alone in my little apartment with my best friend Jack Daniells. Its been 3 weeks since that all went down and I cant stop thinking about her F***ing other men and how easy it was for her to just drop all that we had and how good I took care of her and her boys. I meen she is driving a brand new SUV thanks to me and I have nothing. I dont even have a heart it feels like. I have talked to alot of people they all just seem to say the same things, You will find better, It just takes time, She obviously wasnt the one for you, Forget that b*** and go hook up with someone else. An when I go downtown to try and meet someone else I just cant stop thinking about her and I am in no mood to be around anyone. I dont want to get drunk but then I dont want to be sober. I have to get wasted just to fall asleep. Then while I am at my desk at work I can feel nothing but an empty void in my chest I feel like my heart will never be able to recover from what she has done to me. I just dont want to be alone anymore. I want to feel the love I once felt. I want to be able to wake up in the morning and when I look in the mirror I am able to smile. How long is it going to take? What else can I do to get over her and to be happy agin? Is going and hooking up with someone else a good idea? Will someone please help me! I beg you!

tommycapnpants

i wish i could tell you how long it will take. i just hope you can move past this soon. i am having much trouble too. trying my best to stay away from the alcohol, but messed up last night. you're not alone brother.

talaniman

First off, Jack Daniels is not your friend, as alcohol is a deppressant. The fact that you broke this up because of her lies and she needs to think shows you wanted out, and the fact she took revenge should have shown you that you where right to break up, only problem is you kept in touch, and paid the price of not walking away cleanly. Stop crying with Jack and pull yourself together, and move on like you should of in the first place. The same goes for Jack, kick him to the curb, and start fresh with a life that makes you happy and leave Jack and the girl alone. Say good riddance to them both. Seek out Alcoholic Anonymous if you must, and the rest is up to you, so get off the pity pot and get busy.

nationalrecruitingsolutio

You dont need a like that....she was using you....the best revenge is having her fell like you could give a . If she knows you are unhappy ...she is winning. Go out ...force yourself to have a good time...in time it will get easier...if you run into her....act like nothing happened and you could care less...if you show her that you are unaffected by it...she will trip out.

LovesRoses

I know how you feel, I went through it too. The way I got through it was with God. Put God in your life, trust me you won't be the same again. Put God in place of Jack and this girl. It will be hard at first but it gets easier as time goes on. Pick up a Bible and read it. Especially Psalms there are a lot of comforting things in Psalms it helps me to get through things like depression and the hurts. It really does help I promise you, you won't be sorry. Where do you live? I live in a small town too and it is so hard to find guys who are good. I run into a lot of jerks who all they want is sex and it does get quit frustrating at times but you get through the lonliness, I know it's not easy but there are others out there who are hurting just like you.

PapaG

I live in a small town in Northern Arizona, And I have stopped the drinking. I am doing alot better. I just miss her soo much I cant stop thinking about her every day. And what hurts me the most is that she is already with someone else making new memories and forgetting about the ones we shared. I was so easily replaceable it semms. I dont even have the courage to go out there and meet someone else. All my friends have been trying to help me but it does no good. So I been using all my spare time up by playing my guitar and going to the gym and just listening to music while I work out for 3-4 hours. I still feel very empty, like there is a void in my chest and no matter what I do it keeps feeling more and more empty. I know its just gonna take time. Its just when you feel this way the time doesnt seem to go by fast enough. Thank you all for the comforting answers and advice.

talaniman

Don't get down, just reclaim your freedom, and stay positive by doing positive things. Its hotter in AZ than in TX, and its hot a hell here, so I can't recommend what you guys do for outdoor fun, so stay cool and know it gets better. Life not the weather.

PapaG

Fun in my town consists of Drugs and Alcohol, The two things I am never gonna touch again. So I am going out there with a positive attitude and trying to meet new people and trying new things, I have bought over 6 tickets for 6 different concerts that are coming up. Ya know stuff like that. I am trying, And I tell myself daily dont let her get you this way! Dont let her get you down. Dont let her!!

talaniman

I've done a lot of volunteer work at churches and hospitals and have enjoyed that immensely.

PapaG

Things just keep getting better...Last night my friends dragged me to the local pool haul to play some pool and to get me out of the house. And I had a very weird feeling about going and as soon as I walk in the place my Ex is there with her new man and as soon as she see's me she kinda of smiles at me then walks over to her new man and just gives him a huge kiss. My heart just started to beat out of control and I saw red. My friends looked at me and said "Dude we are soo sorry, maybe you should leave" So i sat there for like 10 min and finally I couldnt stop myself from thinking about beating his but I know its not his fault its all her. So i simply just left and went back home and couldnt sleep for the whole night. Life is great!