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i lost him and we love each other, how do i get him back?
ok well let me start by saying that i recently got dumped by my boyfriend of 7 months. we both love each other very very very much....we broke up cz i had done a mistake that wasnt a big deal,but it was the cherry on top of many many many mistakes.....hes my first serious relationship and i loved him from the bottom of my heart.... hes everything to me and he represents happiness....after we broke up ..i tried to get back with him and promised him that i will change and i really wanted to!! but 1 week ago there was this concert for david guetta taht i wanted to go to. i know he doesnt like me to go to concerts and stuff like that without him or alone cz there are too many guys alcohool drugs.... but stupid me,i went...so he sent me an sms saying that everythng was over cz i shldnt of been there...so at that night i was soo sad and i cldnt leave cz my bff wanted to stay there with her bff.so one of her friends , a guy, came and started dancing with me to make me feel better , but he started getting closer and closer and i was pushing him but he wldnt understand and i was soo weak cz i was soo sad so i danced with him but i was holding my tears so i started telling my bff to get him off me and finally she did so afetr that night i appologised to my ex and started begging for another chance, we were making a progress untill one day his friend shows him a video of me dancing with that guy so he got soo furious and now he doesnt want to talk to me , he blocked me on msn, removed me from facebook, doesnt answer my msgs or my phonecalss,and hes says tht he wldnt be with me even if i was the last girl on earth...and he started goin out with a girl, just once, but i know him and shes nt his type he trying to mke me jealous and he did...so help me to get him back!!
ps:he is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo stubbornnnnnnnn!!
I JUST DONT WANT TO MOVE ON:s u just dnt know him:S u dnt know teh gd things in him:s he is very sensitive and very caring and loving and he doesnt like to dominate he just wants to take care of me and i did smthn wrong we were goin to get back that night and i went out and danced with another guy
Honey, you danced with someone, you didn't have sex with him, you didn't even kiss him, you didn't do anything wrong, but he is making you feel so much guilt over this, that's not right.
If you don't want to move on then there's nothing we can say that will change your mind, but honey, we're not trying to hurt your feelings, we just don't want to see you get hurt any more than you already are. I've been were you are now, and I had to learn the hard way, through experience, you don't have to do that, you have people that are telling you what will happen in the future if you stay with this guy. We aren't just saying this because it sounds good, we're saying this from experience.
Is there a chance that he'll change and that you two will live happily ever after, sure, there's always a chance, but the percentage isn't high. If I told you that you had an 80% chance of getting hit by a car if you cross a certain street, would you cross it? I'm saying that you probably have a 20% chance of this relationship turning out to be okay, actually 20% is being generous, those aren't good odds honey. That's my opinion, based on my past experiences, you can either learn from my mistakes or make mistakes of your own, I just hope you don't have to pay to dearly from those mistakes.
I wish you all the best dear, that's all I can do, the rest is up to you.
i wrote for all of u here to get advices on how to get him back:s cz i think our relation can be great if we both change....so thats what i wld like to know:s how to get him back after hurting him:s
I JUST DONT WANT TO MOVE ON:s u just dont know him:S u dnt know the gd things in him:s he is very sensitive and very caring and loving and he doesnt like to dominate he just wants to take care of me and i did smthn wrong we were going to get back that night and i went out and danced with another guy
He wants to take care of you? How is he going to do that? He is 18, you two are not married, I assume you live at home, your parents take care of you.
You went out and danced with a guy, you didn't sleep with him. You two were broke up then. What was he doing besides having people spy on you?Were you supposed to just sit at home and cry until he decided if he wanted you back?
When you get tired of feeling guilty and begging and waiting for him to "forgive" you, you will realize how unhealthy this is. Until then there really is nothing I or anyone else can say. You are not ready to stand up and be your own person. You want this guy to "take care of you" even if it means allowing him to put you down.
This guy say's he o longer cares about you or wants you, do not lower yourself by begging someone who does not want you.
How old did you say you are?
I can't tell you how to get someone back who says they don't want you. You can't change a person and they should not try and change you.
My advice is just be yourself, don't grovel and beg, let him see you as a happy independent person. He will either like that and be drawn back to you or he won't.
You need to learn to be happy with yourself and by yourself, then you will be ready for a relationship.
Beg, plead, and do whatever he says. He will take you back in a minute, don't forget the crying, control freaks love crying. .. tell him how dumb you are, and how stupid it was for you to be shaking your money maker in front of those dude. Remember crying is best done on your knees. Thats very important if you really want him to take you back, and don't take no for an answer. Beg harder, plead more, cry more, and don't forget your on your knees. Plan ahead and get a good pair of knee pads because he may have to think about it, so be ready with all the tears ya got. Do you do windows? That may help...........oh, before I forget the most important trick in the book.........................call him MASTER............and swear to be his slave. If he is the sweet, sensitive guy you say he is, ............he'll take you back.
Didn't we cover this already? I though we already told her how to get him back, I guess she didn't beg and plead enough, needs a new plan of attack.
If Tals advice doesn't work then swear to him that you will never, and I mean never, disobey him again, you've learned your lesson, you know who's boss, you will not defy him or his rules again. Make sure he knows that you will always be his, that you love him so much that you will do anything he says, no questions asked. Make sure he knows how sorry you are for being a human being, you were wrong and he had every right to be angry, you had an independent thought, that is not allowed, you know that now. Beg and plead, he'll love it, before you know it you'll be under his control again.
i already did that:s and ur saying it to wake me up and let me know that i shldnt be his slave:S:S now i understand:s ur makin fun of this and i did it:S its humuliating enough:s i understand i dnt wanna be seen like that:s ...i will stop...:S....
We're not making fun of it, we're trying to give you a dose of reality, a splash of cold water on your face so that you wake up and smell the coffee. You are better than this, can't you see that? Obviously not, so we are being cruel to be kind, do you understand? We care about you, that's why we are saying what we are saying.
You are humiliated? Maybe that's a good thing, because that's all you'll ever feel with this guy, humiliation, better to learn it now and move on, or accept it and live it for a lifetime.
Did we finally get through, I hope so dear, because I hate to think that you still want this guy after everything he's done to you. Time and self confidence is what you need, it's in you, you just have to find it.
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