ok well let me start by saying that i recently got dumped by my boyfriend of 7 months. we both love each other very very very much....we broke up cz i had done a mistake that wasnt a big deal,but it was the cherry on top of many many many mistakes.....hes my first serious relationship and i loved him from the bottom of my heart.... hes everything to me and he represents happiness....after we broke up ..i tried to get back with him and promised him that i will change and i really wanted to!! but 1 week ago there was this concert for david guetta taht i wanted to go to. i know he doesnt like me to go to concerts and stuff like that without him or alone cz there are too many guys alcohool drugs.... but stupid me,i went...so he sent me an sms saying that everythng was over cz i shldnt of been there...so at that night i was soo sad and i cldnt leave cz my bff wanted to stay there with her bff.so one of her friends , a guy, came and started dancing with me to make me feel better , but he started getting closer and closer and i was pushing him but he wldnt understand and i was soo weak cz i was soo sad so i danced with him but i was holding my tears so i started telling my bff to get him off me and finally she did so afetr that night i appologised to my ex and started begging for another chance, we were making a progress untill one day his friend shows him a video of me dancing with that guy so he got soo furious and now he doesnt want to talk to me , he blocked me on msn, removed me from facebook, doesnt answer my msgs or my phonecalss,and hes says tht he wldnt be with me even if i was the last girl on earth...and he started goin out with a girl, just once, but i know him and shes nt his type he trying to mke me jealous and he did...so help me to get him back!!

ps:he is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo stubbornnnnnnnn!!

Altenweg

First you have to love yourself before you can get love from someone else. You don't seem to love yourself very much because you let him treat you like property repeatedly and then go back for more. He shouldn't have to "handle" you, he should listen when you talk and not be mean about it, that's what a relationship is about, a relationship is not what you have.

If you feel invisible without him then you need to deal with other issues before you can have a successful relationship. You cannot expect someone else to make you feel complete, you have to find that within yourself.

Good Luck.

dunnowhat

But He Also Has Many Many Gd Things In Him.....hes Funny, He Understands Me Very Well...and He Also Have Problems At His House......so I Wanted To Make Up For Him For All His Sadness And Disappointments...he Loves Me A Lot Thats Why He Is Soo Controlling....... He Wants Me To Do The Right Thing All The Time And He Gets Sooo Mad If I Mess Up...but You Know How It Is Like To Be Inlove....u Look Away On The Bad Sides Of The Person And Focus On His Gd Sides

Altenweg

Honey, you only look away at the bad when you are young or insecure.

I once dated a guy that was wonderful, he was kind, caring, giving, we had allot in common and we really hit it off. I was 15, he was 18, but it didn't matter to me, because heck, I knew everything when I was 15, or at least I thought I did.

One day we were driving around in his truck, he pulled into an alley, turned to me and said "I've done so much for you, now it's your turn to do something for me, I want to have sex." I said no, he grabbed my head and smashed it into the windshield of his truck, the windshield broke so he punched me because he was angry that he'd have to replace it.

I learned a valuable lesson that day, things aren't always as wonderful in a relationship as you think, looking back, there were signs that I either refused to see or completely overlooked. Don't make the same mistake.

Trust me when I say I know the type of guy you are dating. It starts off with a few little acts of control, it ends with you getting beaten or worse. Honey, you don't have to learn this the hard way, take a lesson from what I experienced and kick this guy to the curb.

You deserve better, you may not know it, but we do.

dunnowhat

oh thx for ur advice it really helped me..... tomorrow i m gonna talk to him face to face and c where this relation is going but im gonna evaluate everything tonight to see id this relation is worth saving or nt...

Homegirl 50

Yes I do. I have a 26 year old daughter and over the years have had 5 foreign exchange students

Altenweg

Be careful sweetie. Remember, you don't need him, you only need yourself. When you are ready then someone great will come in to your life. That's what happened to me and we've been together for 18 years, have 2 beautiful kids and a wonderful relationship. Don't settle for so-so, you deserve something GREAT!

Good Luck, let us know what happens.

starbuck8

Honey, please listen to some of the good advice given here...PLEASE!! Take time tonight to REALLY consider it. I sure wish I would have had a place like this to come to when I was your age, and had people give me the advice and support that we are willing to give you.

This boy is controlling, and you don't have enough self confidence, or self love to see it. It may have come from family problems that you've had as you say. He may have also had his family issues, but that is his problem, not yours to solve for him. You have to explore your own problems and insecurity issues. You need to develop your own self worth and the confidence to know that you don't need a boy to make you feel good about yourself.

Please trust me when I say this. He will take your lack of self confidence and use it to his advantage, and sooner than later, you will have alot less than you started out with! You MUST NOT feel guilty, or like you made a mistake because you went to a concert with friends, or had an innocent dance with another boy, or anything that you want to do!

YOU ARE NOT INVISIBLE without HIM!! You have a right to your own decisions and your own life, whether he is in it or not. I sure hope your answer is NOT!!

I was with a man for many yrs., and then with another one for several more, that took yrs out of my life that I can NEVER get back again. They took my most precious commodoties, by controlling behaviour like you are describing. You might not see it now, but it will smack you right in the face later when it's too late. The men I was with were very kind, charming and loving in the beginning too! But that controlling behaviour turned into abusive behaviour. Men like that do it very slowly. You start out letting the small things go unnoticed, and then the bigger things get swept under the rug, and before you know it, you feel helpless to leave him!! You can tell yourself over and over that you will never be "that girl", and one day you wake up, and you ARE that girl!

So please, listen to someone who knows, and find yourself someone who will treat you with the mutual respect and trust that you deserve!!

Best of luck to you!

ISneezeFunny

You know you can find guys that are funny, understanding, good looking, treats you like a princess, wishes you wonderful things in life...without the drama, right?

There are guys that will love you and take care of you without acting like your parole officer.

...My advice is to get rid of the guy...but I strongly doubt you'll listen to that...but I do hope you look at yourself and reevaluate your situation. You don't need a guy to make you feel great...you need a guy to notice that you're great.

jolienoire

Vous pouvez explorer l'univers cherche quelqu'un qui mérite plus de votre amour et votre affection que vous vous êtes, et vous ne trouverez pas cette personne n'importe où!

there is nothing you can do to get him back love yourself first, you do not need him.. You only think you do, You can live without him, keep telling yourself that. You are in control not him, To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance" Oscar Wilde. Please give him the space he is asking for, you may ruin any chance of him ever talking to you. Take this time to work on yourself, I know it sounds easy but fasten up your seatbelt and enjoy the ride called life, its full of detours and unknown roads, but as long as you know where you are going, then you will be fine... That path should be ahead..

dunnowhat

after reading all of ur advices..... i told him that i prefer that we just stay friends and stay away of each other's lives.... and with time if he misses me he can contact me but it is the best way to move on...so he said : ok i promise u ill stay away from ur life and dnt worry abt me goin out with girls..im just having some fun....

so i decided to do the same...i will put him as far as he can be from my life and start enjoying it..thx for the advices i really needed to hear from people with experience