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i lost him and we love each other, how do i get him back?
ok well let me start by saying that i recently got dumped by my boyfriend of 7 months. we both love each other very very very much....we broke up cz i had done a mistake that wasnt a big deal,but it was the cherry on top of many many many mistakes.....hes my first serious relationship and i loved him from the bottom of my heart.... hes everything to me and he represents happiness....after we broke up ..i tried to get back with him and promised him that i will change and i really wanted to!! but 1 week ago there was this concert for david guetta taht i wanted to go to. i know he doesnt like me to go to concerts and stuff like that without him or alone cz there are too many guys alcohool drugs.... but stupid me,i went...so he sent me an sms saying that everythng was over cz i shldnt of been there...so at that night i was soo sad and i cldnt leave cz my bff wanted to stay there with her bff.so one of her friends , a guy, came and started dancing with me to make me feel better , but he started getting closer and closer and i was pushing him but he wldnt understand and i was soo weak cz i was soo sad so i danced with him but i was holding my tears so i started telling my bff to get him off me and finally she did so afetr that night i appologised to my ex and started begging for another chance, we were making a progress untill one day his friend shows him a video of me dancing with that guy so he got soo furious and now he doesnt want to talk to me , he blocked me on msn, removed me from facebook, doesnt answer my msgs or my phonecalss,and hes says tht he wldnt be with me even if i was the last girl on earth...and he started goin out with a girl, just once, but i know him and shes nt his type he trying to mke me jealous and he did...so help me to get him back!!
ps:he is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo stubbornnnnnnnn!!
he is 18 years old, but he is so mature and u are right, everytime it was my fault, my frnd was trying to get us back together so she told him to give me a chance and she asked him: didnt she give u any chance? he said:no i ve done nthn wrong to be given a chance for. and everytime he dumped me and i ran after him to get him back . and everytime it was my fault even for the smallest mistakes he'd brake up with me
and i loved what starby said but i also had a discussion with another adult , my friend's mom....she told me that its all my fault i shldnt have lied to him ever and i shldnt of danced with that guy, because me nd my ex were in a critical status where this thing cldnt be torlorated because at that night he was gonna take me back but after that he totally changed his mind
No, you should not lie to him, but if he is on you about everything you do and you are afraid he is going to dump your for breathing when he told you not to, you will lie to keep him. That is my point. That is a disfunctional relationship. There should not be that much stress on your part.
He was not even your boyfriend when you danced with that guy. What were you supposed to do, hide away in hopes that he would take you back? Does he have people following you around to see what you are doing? You need to be glad he is gone. He is controlling. What does he mean "can't be tolerated" He is not your daddy. How old are you?
I still say this is a guy who manipulates you and keeps you second guessing yourself. He wants to control your life completely. If you were my daughter, I'd tell you he is not worth it. Why do you think he kept taking you back? Because you beg, and he gets off on that. If you have to beg some guy to take you back, you don't need him. Don't lower yourself like that.
It is a very big mistake to stay with someone that controling. People like that will strip you of every ounce of dignity you have.
i know u are right...but when we first started goin out he wasnt like that cz i wasnt like that.hes gd to me when im gd to him....after some time with him...some frnds of mine started haveing bad influence on me .... and i started chaging in a bad way. so he did the same...he always told me i fell in love with the girl u were before nt this girl..
He liked you because you were accommodating to him, did everything he wanted you to do. Everyone changes, it's a part of growing up.
If he does not like the new you, then leave him alone. Don't try to be something you're not just to please him. He is not going to change his ways to please you.
If you changed in a way he didn't like, he should have just left you alone and not have you groveling and begging him.
I still say he is controlling. He is not good for you.
Oh please, don't let others tell you that what you did was bad. Not bad enough for some duffus to just walk away, because you were out having the fun you should be. Its not like you were grabbing guys and trying to make out with them. He will say anything he can to make you feel guilty, and wrong. Thats how he keeps you the way he wants you, how he wants you , and where he wants you. Seems to be working as look at yourself. Your blaming yourself, and have done nothing, and now you'll do anything to get him back??? Thats exactly what Homegirl has been telling you, leave this loser and get someone who at least enjoys going out, and treats you right, he ain't it. Stand up for yourself, don't take his crap, and get a real man, who doesn't play mind games to keep a female.
Oh please, don't let others tell you that what you did was bad. Not bad enough for some duffus to just walk away, because you were out having the fun you should be. Its not like you were grabbing guys and trying to make out with them. He will say anything he can to make you feel guilty, and wrong. That's how he keeps you the way he wants you, how he wants you , and where he wants you. Seems to be working as look at yourself. Your blaming yourself, and have done nothing, and now you'll do anything to get him back??? That's exactly what Homegirl has been telling you, leave this loser and get someone who at least enjoys going out, and treats you right, he ain't it. Stand up for yourself, don't take his crap, and get a real man, who doesn't play mind games to keep a female.
My man talaniman just pegged it. He plays mind games with you. Don't play with him any more. Find someone who likes to go out and have fun with you rather than condemning you for having fun.
Sweetie, I realize that it's hard to see someone the way other's see him, love is blind. That's why we are able to see so clearly exactly who and what he is, we aren't in love with him. Everyone that has responded has told you to find someone else, can that many people really be wrong? Love is blind, but it doesn't have to be be dumb too, do the smart thing and find someone worthy of your love, this guy isn't it.
and now he wants to start goin out with another girl, and she told him taht she'll wait for him untill hes ready and she nt goin out with anyone or anywhere so he wont get mad. and my frnd told him that if he goes out with her ill be soo devastated he said :its her problem i dnt care:s
and now he wants to start goin out with another girl, and she told him taht she'll wait for him untill hes ready and she nt goin out with anyone or anywhere so he wont get mad. and my frnd told him that if he goes out with her ill be soo devastated he said :its her problem i dnt care:s
So why are you wanting this guy? He thinks he has found someone else he can dominate. Let the girl have him.
He is so not worth it. Move on young lady. There are bigger fish in the sea.
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