Lost a girl that I was with for 3 years. Still in love.

First - Crying for two months, really? Why you think that will get her back?

Second - It is over, your relationship is done.

Third - Changing, you have not changed at all. You have been giving probably thousands of chances to change your jealous insecure ways.

Fourth - Begging her to stay is not considered doing everything to get her back. Your actions speak louder then your words and she did not see any change.

Fifth - How many chances do you think you should be allowed? I think she gave you plenty.

Sixth - I think it is awesome she got out of this relationship. She was living torture for three years. I am sure you can understand that you having torture and crying for two months does not really make a difference to her.

Seven - Praying to all the gods will not get anybody back that is not suppose to be in your life.

Eight - Now it is time to let go of her. This is getting to the good part you need to move on. You need to stop feeling sorry for your life. You need to get counseling to find out why your so obsessive, why your so jealous and work on yourself and learn from this experience.

Nine - It takes personal growth. It takes time. It will not be over night. You need to focus on growing. Learning and finally staying away from relationships for a while.

Ten- One more thing. Focus on spending time with yourself. Doing things for yourself. Volunteer somewhere. Do something productive and important.

Number 11:

Learn from this one. So you may be better down the road.

Number 12, Time to let go, and do other things with your life besides crying over someone you treated badly, and she left.

Number 13, What did you expect when you abuse and don't show love?

Number 14, Don't repeat your mistakes, do better.

I wish I had some great guidance for you, but honestly I am tortured over losing my wife of 10 years, and some times nothing makes sense....

Fortunately for you, 3 years is not a very long time, and you can find someone else that can replace what you once had. There is the possibility that she may contact you one day, but don't count on it.... I never abused my wife at all, and she hasn't attempted contact in 5 years.....