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Old Oct 8, 2009, 11:04 PM
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Long distance and naked photos

hello everyone, I have been in a long distance relationship for 3years.

In the first year we had send naked photos to each other. After I did regret it but I never said anything, because what was done was done. In the 2nd year we broke up for awhile and we both ended up deleting the photos. Now he wants me to send more. I really don't feel comfortable with there being naked pictures of me online, because you never know who might hack and find them. My boyfriend is sooo mad at me telling me he doesnt love me, he loves the old me. Also how now he has to go watch porn alot to satisfy himself and whatever, but he says it in a threatening way.

I know I will never send them but how do I make him not be so dramatic about it??

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Old Oct 9, 2009, 12:25 AM   #2  
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This is emotional blackmail-nobody should try to make anyone else something they dont want to do.
You re still in a longdistance relationship after quite a few years - what plans have you made for a future living together?

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You shouldn't do it.

If he's pressuring you and saying he doesn't love you because of this then THIS IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD BE IN.

He sounds like a jerk.

As soon as he said "I don't love you for not doing this" it should've been your cue to run away.

You deserve better--- thank god those old photos were deleted. A guy like that WOULD blackmail you if things went sour.

Ick.

Dump him.

Sarah

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Old Oct 9, 2009, 05:59 AM   #4  
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I thought that I was going to use some colorful words, but mudweiser did it for me.

1) He's a JERK.
2) He's EXTREMELY controlling.
3) His demands are RIDICULOUS
4) He DOESN'T respect you whasoever
5) When your significant other tells you that he DOESN'T love you, it's over.

DUMP HIM.

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Old Oct 9, 2009, 06:22 AM   #5  
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If a guy can't show you respect then he doesn't deserve you. I couldn't see how a guy could do this to girl like this and be so forceful and threatful. It just isn't right. If he wants to go watch porn, let him do it. That's all he should get from now on. So, like said above you need to move on and forget about him.

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Tell him to enjoy his porn, and leave you alone. You should be mad that he is trying to manipulate you to get what he wants. You should also be mad at yourself for allowing such callous disrespect, without a good tongue lashing from you to him.

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Thank you all, he ended up breaking up with because I wouldn't send them. so w.e its his problem now. Thanks for all the answers I thought the same as you did but I needed to be sure I was thinking right! xoxo
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You should be relieved!

I guess it's girls night out tonight!

Wahoo! Have fun! Your single now!

Yippy, ka yo ka yay!

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I can't I have no friends because I just moved to a new town
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I can't I have no friends because I just moved to a new town
Well now is the time to make those new friends. Don't be shy and don't let anything hold you back. You are free and can do what you want. He was probably just wanting the pictures as another source of jacking off anyway. What a prick.
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