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    wontbez Posts: 32, Reputation: 4
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    #1

    Apr 2, 2007, 06:23 PM
    List of things to do after a breakup
    Feel free to add to this list.


    1. Volunteer
    2. Take a class in something you're interested in
    3. Learn a foreign language
    4. Read a book on the best seller chart
    5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
    6. Call old friends and family members
    7. Play some video games
    8. Watch some movies
    9. Join a gym
    10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
    11. Learn how to cook
    12. Get a library card
    13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
    14. Take on a new project at work
    15. Update your resume
    16. Buy some new clothes
    17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
    18. Change the layout of your furniture
    19. Go for walks
    20. Answer questions on this website
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    Apr 2, 2007, 06:51 PM
    Some great suggestions
    Lets add to it

    21. Make some plans for YOU for the near future
    22. Book a holiday, everyone needs something to look farward to
    23. Get closer to friends who have been on the 'fringe'
    24. Go swimming
    25. Make a myspace site and fill it with photos of time before/after the ex. Pump yourself up on the site, 'self love'

    Anymore suggestions?
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    #3

    Apr 11, 2007, 05:44 AM
    26.) Make a list of all the bad things about the relationship when you are reflecting on the breakup. All too often, for the one left behind, he or she focuses too much on the good things.

    27.) Write a letter to your ex but DON'T SEND IT>>Purely for your own healing.
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    Apr 11, 2007, 05:51 AM
    28.) (Related to #21.) Set short term goals (run a marathon, or a mile if you've never run before, finish that book, save up six months' rent, get a 3.8 or higher GPA this semester, an A on the next exam, etc.) and concentrate your energy on achieving that goal.

    It will not only distract you but you will feel sooo great and such a sense of accomplishment when you achieve it.
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    #5

    Apr 11, 2007, 05:52 AM
    Number 1 for me would be to work out your part in why the breakup happened so that you do not repeat the same pattern in the future.
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    Apr 11, 2007, 07:23 AM
    Also lets add take a day to pamper yourself, watch a movie, go out to lunch with friends, write in your diary, love yourself.
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    #7

    Apr 11, 2007, 07:31 AM
    Just a day to pamper yourself!?
    I've taken almost a year now lol ;-)
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    #8

    Apr 11, 2007, 07:33 AM
    Have a thick, cold, chocolate milkshake.
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    #9

    Apr 11, 2007, 07:50 AM
    Cry as much as you want, male or female, it's OK to, just don't wallow!
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    Sep 23, 2007, 06:44 PM
    I guess this is where you guys left the list:

    29) Travel to near beach on the weekend, rent a nice bugalo, surf all day, sleep all night.
    30) Play tennis until the balls explode, then please re hydrate yourself!
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    #11

    Sep 24, 2007, 06:32 PM
    LIVE FOR YOU!! Do those things that you couldn't do before. Enjoy life. Don't wallow in self pity or wonder "what if." Take the time to be YOU.
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    #12

    Sep 25, 2007, 02:56 PM
    Go NO CONTACT!! Yes you know you want to. You do! Go on :)
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    #13

    Oct 7, 2007, 03:29 PM
    One thing I did in my brakeup was to use it as an impetus to change my outlook on life. It certainly gave me a kick up the to do the things I allways wanted and instead of saying no so much say yes. This past year has been the most life changing experience as of yet! The worst and best :)

    So treat yours as a kick up the to go and live life!
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    #14

    Oct 10, 2007, 03:36 AM
    KICKBOXING!!

    I started it within 2 days of my ex boyfriend splitting with me and it's the best thing I've ever done!
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    #15

    Oct 11, 2007, 03:42 AM
    Buy a ps3 :)
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    #16

    Oct 12, 2007, 06:40 PM
    Learn the salsa!
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    #17

    Oct 12, 2007, 08:24 PM
    Turn on the Lifetime channel and search for happiness at the bottom of a carton of ice cream.
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    #18

    Nov 15, 2007, 01:27 PM
    Cry... I've found crying to be the best of medicine for anything... so yea... just sit and cry... THEN GO AND PARTY WITH SOME FRIENDS AND HAVE SOME LAUGHS!! ^.^ always helps!!
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    #19

    Nov 16, 2007, 12:16 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by wontbez
    Feel free to add to this list.


    1. Volunteer
    2. Take a class in something you're interested in
    3. Learn a foreign language
    4. Read a book on the best seller chart
    5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
    6. Call old friends and family members
    7. Play some video games
    8. Watch some movies
    9. Join a gym
    10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
    11. Learn how to cook
    12. Get a library card
    13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
    14. Take on a new project at work
    15. Update your resume
    16. Buy some new clothes
    17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
    18. Change the layout of your furniture
    19. Go for walks
    20. Answer questions on this website
    The best thing I can say is to have fun. Life sometimes bring heartache, but it makes the happiness and joy in our lives so much greater! Have fun and enjoy yourself
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    #20

    Nov 24, 2007, 10:11 PM
    I agree with you Kelly, it's good to get out and remember that you have a life. Go out, find something that makes you happy (that is a HEALTHY way do cope). Spend some cash on yourself, do something YOU want to do.

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