List of things to do after a breakup

wontbez · Apr 2, 2007, 05:23 PM

Feel free to add to this list.

1. Volunteer
2. Take a class in something you're interested in
3. Learn a foreign language
4. Read a book on the best seller chart
5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
6. Call old friends and family members
7. Play some video games
8. Watch some movies
9. Join a gym
10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
11. Learn how to cook
12. Get a library card
13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
14. Take on a new project at work
15. Update your resume
16. Buy some new clothes
17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
18. Change the layout of your furniture
19. Go for walks
20. Answer questions on this website

losingit77 · Mar 30, 2008, 09:03 AM

I just wrote a loving goodbye letter to ex (that ofcourse I'll never ever send anywhere). God, its amazing how good it feels to just get that all out. I highly recommend! It feels so much better to be down the loving happy thoughts rather than focusing on the pain and anger.

jamimama · Mar 30, 2008, 01:33 PM

Rearrange your furniture or change the artwork on your walls. It will help you set up a space that is not imbedded with memories and you can find a way to make your place feel new and yours again...I've been having trouble coming back to my room, and trouble sleeping missing him beside me, so it helped somewhat to make my space clean and new again.

jamimama · Mar 30, 2008, 09:18 PM

I know you're supposed to throw away all the photos, but I just found looking at an unflattering photo of him a bit therapeutic.

jamimama · Apr 2, 2008, 09:31 PM

Any good post-break up song recommendations for running or for listening to when I'm feeling down? I'm thinking cheesy independence anthems like Journey "Don't Stop Believing" and Natasha Bedingfield "Unwritten."

Themes being positivity, independence, freedom, etc.

Andreas_111 · Apr 19, 2008, 06:48 AM

Have fun, listen to music.

bigbird213 · Apr 23, 2008, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Andreas_111

Have fun, listen to music.

I agree. For me, music is one of the most powerful tools to help change my mood. With the right music, I can put myself into just about any mood I want - though I guess im a little more into than most. Playing the guitar (or any instrument i imagine) is another great way to become totally consumed by something for a few hours....it really passes the time..

A word of caution however: The wrong music can tear you apart, so be careful what you listen to

losingit77 · Apr 24, 2008, 03:02 PM

Yeah, god the "wrong music" can really screw things up. I never realized how almost every song on the radio seems to be about broken hearts. In my 30 years on this earth, I never quite understood them. Now, unfortunately, I do. Well, I guess everyone needs to get their heart broken atleast once (or twice by the same person in my case). ; )

stuck719 · May 13, 2008, 08:40 AM

I've been wallowing for some time. So tired of it. Thanks for the advice.

bigbird213 · May 13, 2008, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by stuck719

I've been wallowing for some time. So tired of it. Thanks for the advice.

I found just changing my daily routine helps too. Even simple things that sound silly, like taking different roads to work. Going to different stores, and doing things in a different order during the day. I can help break the monotony which used to include that certain someone and help you to feel more changes than the one you are focused on. Lots of little changes helped to get me excited about changing my entire life.

bigbird213 · May 13, 2008, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by jamimama

Any good post-break up song recommendations for running or for listening to when I'm feeling down?

Found a new one recently (older song actually)....

Don't tell me what to think.
Cause I don't care this time.
Don't tell me what you believe,
Cause you wont be there
To catch me when I fall.
But you'll need me
when I'm not here at all.
....
Don't tell me how life is,
Cause I don't really wanna know.
Don't tell me how this game ends,
Cause we'll just see how it goes.

3 Doors Down - Going Down in Flames



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