Right, look.. this is the story.. I'm not feeling upset, hurt or any other emotion that people go through with a break up, because WE BREAK UP ALL THE TIME!!

I have been with.. this girl.. for 2 and a half years or nearabouts. I have not been happy for a year now.. when we first broke up. God, I wish I had of just broken up with her completely then, instead of all this nonsense.

Let me think.. we have broken up not once, not twice, not three times, I think this is the fifth!! time we have broken up.

In January we broke up, the next month we get talking again.. we meet up, we ring each other.. it's all back to the way it was. She is all over me like a rash, ringing me every night etc.. then one night I rung her and she was really off with me. Since then, she has hardly spoke a word to me, like she doesn't care about me.. don't worry, I'm used to this cycle.. she does this every time we are about to break up!

It seems to me that whenever I'm treating her like a queen, she goes off me. But when I treat her badly (ignore her texts, one word answers on the phone, etc) she comes running back like a shot...

Anyway, I'm through with this. I'm tired of relying on her to make me happy. Because when we're on that stage when we're back together, I'm really happy.. but at the back of my mind I keep thinking: "don't rely on her to make me happy because she isn't reliable, she's going to go off in that cycle any time now"..

Then we break up, for the first week.. I manage no problem with N/C. Then she'll text me and I'll run straight back. Or, if she doesn't run back to me, I run back to her and she takes me back.

It's sooo confusing!! I just want to rely on my own moods to be happy, not rely on someones mood to decide if I'll have a good day or not! Like it used to be before I met this girl!!

Sometimes I wish I had never have met her, but then I think back to the first year and a half, when everything was just brilliant...

DazT

Hey there, day 14 is almost finished and I'm doing really well. Not thinking of her as much any more but today I was a bit down when I heard a rumour about myself.

Now, the girl who started the rumour is known to gossip.. but I don't know if my ex knows her as a gossip as she doesn't know her very well. The rumour is:

When I was on holiday in the summer I cheated on my ex girlfriend (then girlfriend) and didn't tell anybody.

I've just been told that the gossiper and the ex, are going to a concert together. I'm afraid she's going to tell her about the rumour and my ex will then think I cheated.

What should I do? I don't want to break N/C.

nickshehe

absolutely nothing..it shouldnt matter what she thinks..
if you contact her you show weakness, and in a form you give her that control and satisfaction that she expects you to give her..
let her come to you and ask you ..then you can decide whether or not to break the NC.

I would go somewhere along the lines of "no I didnt cheat on you but I wouldnt be suprised if you dont believe me..anyway I have to jet I have some stuff to do..take care"

Homegirl 50

Why are you even worried about it. She is your ex!
If you are worried about what she thinks, she is not the problem, you are the problem. If she and the relationship was as bad as you say, why did you keep going back and why are you worried about what she thinks?
Enjoy your freedom.

DazT

The relationship wasn't bad until the last 6 months or so, then it was horrible.

I really am enjoying my freedom and I feel I'm much happier now. I'm really enjoying single life again.

I didn't want to break no contact and that is what I was thinking of doing nickshehe, you have just re-assured me.

talaniman

Don't break it, no reason to, as rumors have no effect on what your doing. Don't even worry how the ex reacts to it, thats her problem not yours.