I like my best guy friends more than a friend way. I don't know what to do. I mean we always have these serious talks and stuff. He's like really nice, but he told me that he liked this other girl. I mean that means that there's no way he would like me and I'm just confused.

Also, I was talking to him about one of my other best guy friends overseas, and like I told him about some things that happened, and he said that this other friend could like me. But I don't know, he's really nice too, and I don't know what that means.

I wish

You could start by figuring out who you actually like and then sticking with that person instead of bouncing back and forth between the two guys.

Once you've figured out who you like, let that person know and go from there.

There's no reason to rush your decision either. Just keep talking to both guys and getting to know them better. Go with the flow. Let things happen naturally.

Caolous

U huh. Thanks, you really do seem like an expert. But you mean that, after I find out who I like, I should tell that person? What if they like someone else though?

I wish

So after you figure out who you like, you tell them how you feel.

After you tell them how you feel, you let the other person decide what to do from there.

If they like someone else too, then they would be in the same position as you. They would have to figure out who they like and then let that person know.

Cat1864

Before you end up in a two relationships at once (that is not a good thing to do), you have one big decision to make first: Could you handle being in a long distance relationship with the guy overseas? Have you ever met him in person? Is there a chance you ever will? Be honest with yourself about the difficulties of keeping a relationship going and growing when both parties are very far apart. Be honest about how you feel about him. You don't want to start a Romantic relationship with him based only on him liking you if you don't really have those feelings for him.

On the guy who lives a lot closer, can you handle the thought of being his best friend if/when he goes out with someone else? Do you have these feelings for him because he is there and a good friend? It can be easy to confuse a deep friendship with romantic love.

As I wish said, take your time. If either of them do get into other relationships while you decide, then you will know that it isn't meant to be, at least, right now and maybe there is someone else you are supposed to meet and build a relationship with.

Caolous

Thanks. Okay, I will think about it. And just that, I have met the person overseas, he has also been a really good friend.

jaime90

I agree with the first poster. It's a good idea to figure out who you like before getting any more feelings wrapped up in it. I wouldn't worry about anyone liking anyone else until you know if that's what you're up against. If you do like a guy who is in a relationship or likes someone else you should probably take a step back. Here are some things you SHOULDN'T DO if you find yourself in that situationon't try to get in the middle of his other relationship, or between him and the girl he likes, and don't talk negatively about this girl or start rumors- these things are completely childish.
DO: Be his friends. If he needs to talk, let him talk and listen to him. If he wants to hangout, let him hangout with you- but be very honest. If he is in a relationship let him know that you have no intention of coming between him and his girlfriend and you pose no threat to them. Also (this may be hard) but you could reassure his girlfriend also that you aren't going to cause problems and you are simply friends with this guy. The last thing you want is for his girlfriend to go up against you because she is suspicious.
All in all, the most you can be with someone who already has a girlfriend is friends. If you're flirting, or going beyond a friendship- it's cheating, and you don't want to start any drama.