My life is in bits ....

Wildcat21 · Jun 2, 2006, 07:36 AM

Hey DJ H - really sorry to hear all this.

I am wondering what turned Pete? Have you acted differently recently? Maybe due to the prenancy? Any fights/arguments? Bad times?

Does Pete know about the pregnancy?

JoeCanada76 · Jun 2, 2006, 08:33 AM

I am really sorry to hear about what your going through with Pete. Depending on how you feel about being pregnant, could be an amazing experience. Bringing a new child into this world. You said that you already told Pete that you are pregnant. Just hold off on any hasty decisions and let Petes head get rapped around the idea. I hope you asked him where did all that come from. Did you ask him what happened? Do you think he believed you when you told him about the pregnancy? A day after breaking up. I am shocked by this, but In my own opinion just give it some time. I know you will be good, no matter what happens. Remember, things that are stressful now. Even being pregnancy could turn out to be such a positive experience. It is all in how you look at the situation. I know I might not being that helpful to you but Just letting you know what I think.

Joe

DJ 'H' · Jun 2, 2006, 09:14 AM

He could not explain anything. All I know is I went away with the girls on a hen do for one night (on Saturday). He text me like normal in the afternoon to see how I was doing - I phoned him as a reply and e were having a giggle and he said he missed me etc.He ended up out with his single friends that evening. I text him at 1am asking if he was still up and if it was ok to call - he replied yes grogeous with many kissess at the end. I phoned, he answered, to start off with fine, then his mates start shouting and he can't get me off the phone quick enough.

I don't hear from him all day sunday and onlu did because I text him. He then told me he did not love me anymore - however he has been showing me in many ways he does up until sunday and even though we are not together he is still showing me in many ways that he does and his behaviour is so strange. He is even jealous of out mutual friend who has been round most nights to support me; even though Sam has offered his support to Pete but he has not taken it.

I am so confused and feel so alone right now.

orange · Jun 2, 2006, 09:19 AM

I am so sorry to hear this, Holly. It's weird too, with no warning signs as you say, and with you just finding out you are pregnant, it must be especially stressful. I would say congratulations on the pregnancy, but I'm not sure if it's wanted or not. In any event, I would support you with whatever your plans are regarding that. As Joe says, pregnancy can be wonderful given the right circumstances.

I wonder if Pete is just going through that same thing he did a couple of months back? Where he took off for no reason and wouldn't talk to anyone? As everyone else has said, wait a couple of days to see what happens. Hopefully he will tell you what's up.

Take care, I'm going to be thinking of you!

DJ 'H' · Jun 2, 2006, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

Hey DJ H - really sorry to hear all this.

I am wondering what turned Pete? Have you acted differently recently? Maybe due to the prenancy? Any fights/arguments? Bad times?

Does Pete know about the pregnancy?

I have not got a clue, all I know is something happened Saturday night which has lead him to run from me. I know there is something he has not told me.

We have had no fights, no arguments, I have been no different, apart from my hormones which is to be expected since I am pregnant (although we did not know) - no bad times.

Yes pete knows about the pregnancy - I ran next door with the hom pregnancy test to show him as soon as I found out.

Wildcat21 · Jun 2, 2006, 09:32 AM

It's been well documented here that Pete is a good guy.

Although I've had women tell me how much they miss me, not to go etc. - only to break two days later. I think they end up meeting someone else and it is slowly evolving.

I know he will come around. It's going to take time. Pete has a lot to think about. He will make the right decision.

BUT, you should get to the bottom of what happened on Saturday night.

DJ 'H' · Jun 2, 2006, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by orange

I am so sorry to hear this, Holly. It's weird too, with no warning signs as you say, and with you just finding out you are pregnant, it must be especially stressful. I would say congratulations on the pregnancy, but I'm not sure if it's wanted or not. In any event, I would support you with whatever your plans are regarding that. As Joe says, pregnancy can be wonderful given the right circumstances.

I wonder if Pete is just going through that same thing he did a couple of months back? Where he took off for no reason and wouldn't talk to anyone? As everyone else has said, wait a couple of days to see what happens. Hopefully he will tell you what's up.

Take care, I'm going to be thinking of you!

Pete does not want the baby and I really don't want to have to have another abortion, but I have looked at my options and I cannot afford to be a single mum. I really won't get the help I need financially and I won't be able to continue working. I am pretty stuffed either way!

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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

It's been well documented here that Pete is a good guy.

Although I've had women tell me how much they miss me, not to go etc. - only to break two days later. I think they end up meeting someone else and it is slowly evolving.

I know he will come around. It's going to take time. Pete has a lot to think about. He will make the right decision.

BUT, you should get to the bottom of what happened on Saturday night.

He is a good guy! But pete is theb type where his actions speak louder than words and he is not a very good talker. He is still portraying that he loves me in his actions, they are not backing up his words!

Wildcat21 · Jun 2, 2006, 10:22 AM

Did he tell you he didn't want to have it?

Wondering if you've been a little needy and clingy lately? Like Texting/calling him at 1 AM etc.......it's so easy to do and you don't realize you have totally over communicated until it's too late. This straight from my dating rules.

People need space and time. Hope you haven't smothered him recently?

People WANT what they can't have. Even when you 70 tou need a little mystery.

JoeCanada76 · Jun 2, 2006, 10:25 AM

Holly,

In my opinion 90 percent of people who have children are not able to financially. I seen many people still survive and make things work. Children are a gift. It is an amazing experience to be able to create life. There is more to life then money and financially issues. We are talking about a human being. Please do not take me the wrong way. Like others have said it is your decision and all of us are here to support you no matter what. I just feel that you need to give it some time at least.

Joe

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