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ok so Pete split up with me on Sunday, says he does not love me anymore. there was no warning signs and everything was fine until saturday evening.
I went away for the night on a hen do. I phoned him that night and he could not get me off the phone quick enough.
I did not hear from him all day Sunday, I text him in the end and after a huge delay he responded and asked me to pop round - thats when he told me.
I ws in total bits.
To make matters worse I found out on the Monday after that I am pregnant, I have told him; but he is all over the place and giving me mixed signals as to how he feels about me.- I don't know what to do?!
Please Help me.
I see LOTS has happened, Holly, since I last checked. I'm DELIGHTED you're [both] doing so well! If I can comment on your letter to Pete:... You MIGHT want to 'reconsider' concerning Pete having a CHOICE whether his name is on the birth certificate. ~ Lots of practical REASONS he should be named. You MIGHT want to get both a legal and a medical opinion. Ther are many reasons concerning the child's rights & needs to be apprised of & keep mind;;; and NOT to overlook the child's paternal grandparents. Next point: Pete actually mentioned selling the birthday gift you'd given him??? WEIRD thing to mention; all things consdered; and HOW RUDE! ["And your reason, Pete for telling/asking me this ..... is ???" ] Me? I'd ASK him that POINT BLANK! If anyone should be embarrassed it'd be HIM! While some might say ASKING HIM would be 'being picky' & it's a 'small point'; I'd disagree. Especially under the circumstances! How INAPPROPRIATE! ~ ["Like there aren't any IMPORTANT things we could TALK ABOUT?"] The very idea he'd WANT to sell your gift violates basic social 'standards' of good taste, BUT TO MENTION it to YOU! How INANE! I'd suggest it DEFINITELY says 'something' about the man's COMMON SENSE & CONSIDERATION [or lack-of] for others FEELINGS; might you agree? In your letter to Pete, didn't you SPECIFY you two 'could get together in a month or so' to talk about the points in your letter; which rather means IN PERSON! Correct? Do I understand that he later said [by e-mail?] he'd "call or text you to answer"??? I don't THINK SO! NOT ACCEPTABLE! [I suggest this is HARDLY the time/junction he has the luxury of behaving like a 12 year old! ~ REVERTING to some sort of shy, indecisive pre-teen behavior; " Uh... gee, Holly, maybe we can get together & have a soda sometime".] I'm so relieved your job is secure... now AND later! And moving closer? Sounds like a good & practical idea. ~ Even so, not to forget, Pete IS a participant in this 'new little venture' and as such, DOES and WILL continue to have an ongoing financial responsibility as well. I caution you to Not be TOO quick or definite ...insisting you can /will/shall 'go it alone'! That MAY be just your pride talking, love. While that MIGHT be your DRUTHERS, the fact is, that's one of many UNKNOWNS! None of us can 'look around corners'! His financial involvement has NOTHING to do with your or his PRIDE. It's more a matter of responsibility AND PRACTICALITY! ~ Well, 'nuff for MY opinions, Holly... It sounds as though you're 'making a list and checking it twice' so to speak! I'm PROUD of you! [Now if I could just figure out how all of here can pool our resources and give you & the little one a BABY SHOWER! ...LOL ! Seriously, I'm probably NOT the only one who has had the thought. [by the way, I make GREAT little quilts and receiving BLANKETS! Best to ya', Love! MarjAnn
" Hi,I want to be on the Birth Certificate. As 4 involvement something like 1 day a week and we'll talk money at a later date, I won't be at the scans so ur call on what you want done. With the surname it's normal to go with the dads. The birth is a long way off but there won't be much point in me being there."
What a bastard - there is no point in him being involved at all?!
What a bastard - there is no point in him being involved at all?!
Cut all contact and make sure the child has court ordered child support and the fathers last name. The mother sounds nice though and should not be made to suffer the sins of the son. As for Pete????
so much for giving pete some leeway on whether he's being a complete a$$.
he doesnt know what hes missing and he doesnt seem to deserve it anyway.
holly, my wife loved being pregnant. it was not always easy. she was ready to be done at the end. but the carrying of the child, the connection she felt, she absolutely LOVED. and the checkups and scans and all the anticipation is a part of the process. you are going to remember those moments with happiness, as you get closer to meeting the little life that is going to be showing up. im not saying there arent trying times ahead, but if you told my wife that she could have the same boy we have today without carrying the child, shed still want to have gone through it all because of the connection she felt.
obviously the father cannot experience that same connection, but pete is still missing out on some good stuff, not to mention failing at being an adult.
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