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ok so Pete split up with me on Sunday, says he does not love me anymore. there was no warning signs and everything was fine until saturday evening.
I went away for the night on a hen do. I phoned him that night and he could not get me off the phone quick enough.
I did not hear from him all day Sunday, I text him in the end and after a huge delay he responded and asked me to pop round - thats when he told me.
I ws in total bits.
To make matters worse I found out on the Monday after that I am pregnant, I have told him; but he is all over the place and giving me mixed signals as to how he feels about me.- I don't know what to do?!
Please Help me.
well thats all I want. To know where I stand. Need to know if I can start the motions of moving on with my life and meeting new guys etc (which is going to be a lot tougher, being pregnant) or to continue to put my life on hold on the basis that he does wnat to come back and he does want to be a proper family, just needs time to adapt?! Is that unreasonable on my part? Is that too much to ask??
NOT AT ALL LOVE
Just ask him..
tell you want an answer now you have had with him and had it with waiting and waiting for his royal highness.
You deserve to know Holly, you are too good for him
Thanks - I knida realise that. I never did anything wrong by him and yet he can do so much wrong by me.
I can assume that he wants nothing to do with the baby and that he and I are over for good; but unless he actually confirms that, then I will have a doubt in my head saying - WHAT IF?! - That is noway to live; and it as you say not a simple break up! If this was just about he and I then I would have told him to take a hike and not bother me again, because his actions were just too hurtful and so much damage caused. However it's not so simple when a child is involved.
Exactly dear.
And dont assume, i believe in my favorite saying :- Assuming the brother of all f**k ups
and i really believe it, coz you will keep questioning yourself for as long as u can imagine.
So get the facts straight, you need and deserve to know and dont care if it bothers him, you come first
Got forms through yesterday. I am applying for my own house. Decided to move out of home and move on. I am going to make myself and my baby a good life, now its just the two of us I can do things my way!
I have an appointment with my midwife tomoorrow to discuss my birth plan, screening tests and other things that need to be sorted.
I appear to be reconciling things with my real dad. Went to his for tea last week and I am going again tomorrow after my appointment with the midwife.
My nan is looking after me well (as I am staying at hers) I love her cooking reminds me of when I was little and used to stay over at hers lol.
Seen lots of my friends and I am meeting with one this weekend as I have not seen him since May and attending my mates wedding on Saturday! A good long rest will be well earned on Sunday!
It's a case of having too! I would go mad otherwise. I know what I need to do and I know I am strong enough to do it. I am not putting my life on hold anymore! Time to take full control and do what I want to do! I have decided its not me whos alone - it's Pete who is on his own!! Putting things in perspective and seeing the bigger picture really does work! - he is losing out on me and a family - I am gaining a family. It might only be a family of two - but it's still my family!
I think you are doing the best thing! You have made the right decision and from the sounds of it you have alot more than a family of two between your nan friends and the possible reconciliation between you and your father!
You are such a strong sweet person and you definately deserve the best.
Best of luck!
Holly, Like I said in a previous post. Just because originally you thought a proper home is with two parents, does not mean a single parent home is not proper. There are many single parents that have more loving homes then two parent home. I am glad your planning your life. With a new beautiful family member and I hope that one day you are able to share your life with somebody that will treat you and your little one right. I am happy for you. So many times in my life I have experianced lows and bad situations that I thought would never get better. Years later the hard times actually made me stronger and I ended up having so many beautiful experiances in my life. I am so happy your are seeing this experiance as a positive for your future with a family that some other people just throw away. Seeing the bigger picture definatley is important. Well, Keep intouch and enjoy the experiance of being pregnant. It is such an amazing experiance ( through the eyes of a father to be and to my wife who is experiancing lots of kicks and movements. Amazing and the journey has just begun.
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