ok so Pete split up with me on Sunday, says he does not love me anymore. there was no warning signs and everything was fine until saturday evening.

I went away for the night on a hen do. I phoned him that night and he could not get me off the phone quick enough.

I did not hear from him all day Sunday, I text him in the end and after a huge delay he responded and asked me to pop round - thats when he told me.

I ws in total bits.

To make matters worse I found out on the Monday after that I am pregnant, I have told him; but he is all over the place and giving me mixed signals as to how he feels about me.- I don't know what to do?!
Please Help me.

DJ 'H'

Had a lovely weekend and a great chat with Petes dad when I returned. I was telling him how I just had to accept Pete and I were over and his dad looked at me and said "Just give him some time" - what do you think he meant by that?

Also Pete surfaced after I had been there ages. He did not even realise I was there. After he hd, he kept walking in and out of the kitchen, backwards and forwards past me wilst I was chatting to his mum, dad and grandad - what was he doing there? He was looking for any excuse to keep coming back into the kitchen?!

I got myself a Midwife yesterday and I actually heard the babies heart beating. It was the most amazing feeling ever!

I have been invited to Petes house (by his Mum) for tea tonight; we are going to discuss the literature I have been given and decide what screening test to have and not have. Not sure if Pete is going to be there though.

Krs

It probably means alot, what Petes dad said, but only his dad knows. But i would keep that as a good sign, as no one knows you better than you actual flesh and blood.. your parents.

Glad you had a good weekend break, you probably really needed it.

I bet Pete was curious to hear what was being said between you, and his family.

Maybe slowly slowly he will come round.

xx

fredg

Hi, DJ,
I am so sorry to read this, but was not on the computer much last week.
Life is full of surprises; some good, some not so good.
At 21 or 22 yrs old (sorry, I forgot which), you have your whole life ahead of you, with many years.
Not all romances work out...my first marriage ended in divorce after 7 yrs; I was 24 when I first got married. This second marriage is now 29 yrs and still going strong.
We all learn, make the best of it, and get on with our lives.
Pete may be just wanting some "space", or I know this hurts, but may be moving on. Since you are pregnant, he may have decided this "is not for him"!
I do wish you the best.

DJ 'H'

All he has been doing since we split is spending time with his dad (mainly) and family. He has not even been out with his friends. So I would be inclined to trust his dads judgment. - we will see what happens tonight; I will keep you all posted. x

Krs

Well there you go.

do and take care of yourself and your unborn lil one
xxx

Chery

Glad you had a nice weekend.
Please try, for now, not to read into things that you don't have any control over at the moment. That way, you don't set yourself up to fall again. You don't need the added stress.

For now, just go about your life, concentrate on staying healthy and emotionally stable - as much as you can - for your's and the baby's sake.

There are no guarantees in life for any of us. We can hope for the best - but should not be obsessed by it. I sometimes think the 'worst' and thankfully get surprised when the 'worst' does not happen. This has helped me out many times.

At least you now know that Pete will not 'run away' every time you are in the same area, and that's a good sign. Just don't try to 'crowd' him right now at any point, or he might feel under pressure.

Good luck, dear, and keep us posted.
Am crossing my fingers for ya!

DJ 'H'

No chance of crowding him Chery. I am staying at my Nans and very rarely see or speak to him. I think I am giving him plenty of space!

I am also not being optimistic; however do need to know if he wants to be involved or not? I have alot of decisions to make soon and I will be going for a scan too; I don't want to be unfair and just make all of the decisions and go to the scan without him, if he wants to be involved. Thats partly the reason I am going to see his mum tonight and accepted her offer to go round for tea, so that his parents are in the picture and if pete wants to know anything then he does not have to come to me and ask, as I know he is not ready to discuss the subject with me, however he does with his parents.

Krs

Do u think, maybe its a good idea to ask pete is he want to accompany you when you go do the scan of your baby?
Just a thought!

DJ 'H'

No, if he knows about it and wants to come, he will ask me. I would rather it be his idea than he feel like I am pressuring him to come with me.

Krs

Thats true!
But then again he may be feeling uncomfortable to ask you if he can come, maybe he feels that you dont want him to come.
Sometimes i find its best it take initaitive.