Letters to our exes

Dear exes, Thanks for kicking me to the curb, so I could meet the love of my life.
Love, your ex.

Thank you, thank you...(insert bragging tone) yes I'm an English major. Damn it feels good to write it where someone will read it, haha.

Dear Jamie,

How you been doing, girl? Hope you're happy. One question though, I don't know why you would put "sad" as your status when I told you in a blog that I didn't want to be friends with you anymore. If any, you should be "glad". I saved us a lot of months because knowing you, I know you would've only taken me for a ride and I still would've been on the sideline, wanting to take a shot at something that wasn't worth it. I liked how you totally ignored me for two whole months. Not even saying "Hi" in the hallways to a guy you once "loved", but have conversations with some guy till 2 in the morning (by the way, how do you like him calling you every 4 letter word he can think of? I find it hilarious). I thought I loved you, I really did. Haha, do you remember our first date? The one where we held hands, cuddled and had our first kiss? Yeah, I still kept the memoirs because I had some hope that we would get back together. It's funny how you showed me more then one way that I was wrong. Anyways, I made you a valentine's day gift as well as a christmas gift in November. I put the movie ticket where we had our first kiss and the first time I looked into your beautiful green eyes in the stuffed animal that I gave you for christmas. You might like it, you might not; I only know that I don't need any of that anymore. I hope you like it though. I've been filling the empty hole you left with music, my guitar, my friends and my philosophies on life. Thanks for kicking me to the curb, I'll never regret telling you that we're not friends anymore. You haven't met someone that treated you as good as I did but that doesn't matter. I just hope the next guy you meet, you won't smash his heart into pieces. Those were a hassle to put back together, you know? Anyways, I have to go to sleep, got school tomorrow.

P.S.
Looking forward for your quick glances to the opposite direction of where I am whenever I see you. I still smile whenever I think about you, except now it's for a different reason. I hope life treats you gently, my lost friend. This is the last goodbye I'll give you. Goodbye Jamie, it's been great. Peace be with you

Dear ___,

Thank you for never being direct with me about what you wanted and felt. Thank you for not having the courage to tell me you did not want to get back together. Thank you for leading me on and dragging me along for a gruel and agonizing two months. But most of all, thank you for helping me realize once again the reason that I broke up with you.

I'm sorry that I exploded in anger at you for essentially not acting like a boyfriend. We were/are over. I just couldn't accept it. I kept clinging onto the hope that you still cared for me and would want me back.

And don't get me wrong. I know you really did care for me at one point. I even know that you didn't know how to show it and that you wished dearly that you could change. You tried. But I guess I wasn't enough. It was unfair of me to ask you to change as a person anyway.

I'm sorry that you weren't enough for me. I'm sorry you had to see me at my weakest moments. You are the ultimate nice guy. It must have been hard for you to tell me it was over in your own little way. I bet you wanted to just yell at me to leave you alone so many of those times.

Today for the first time, I did not feel any resentment or anger. I'm happy for the experience and memories that you gave me. You taught me what I want and don't want in a partner. Like you said, "we tried our best. There's nothing to be sad about."

I know we said we'd be friends and hope we can someday. I hope you'll overlook my drastic measures to forget you (I'd be flattered if I were you!).

I'm just not ready yet to be friends. Give me time to heal. I hope you'll still want to be friends by the time I'm over you.

Your friend,
______

Thank God I didn't send this! Too angry


Hi Bobo,

What's wrong? You…that’s what.

First of all you dump me and expect me to be your best friend overnight.

Secondly, you kept rubbing Bobette (his new gf) in my face. Quite frankly I told you I was not interested about hearing about her at all but obviously you didn’t listen. Did you think it sat well with me when you kept mentioning her? Even same thing with your other friends…not everyone wants to hear about your intimate details with her. Keep it to yourself. Have some respect.

Thirdly, you put up a picture of her and you just to rub it in my face even more. You NEVER put up display pictures even when I asked you in the past...why now? To rub salt in my wounds?

Fourthly, thanks for lying to me towards the end of our relationship by telling me you loved me when you didn’t. You obviously were not faithful, went behind my back without being honest. God knows what you did when I was studying my off at uni for my exams.

Fifthly, you hardly put any effort on our relationship and not even when I tried being your friend. I came last most of the time. Only when I was gone did you only want to talk to me or make an effort. Why? Oh I wonder why! Cause I was so good to you. I was there for you day in and day out. Came down for you when you were sick, bought you things to cheer you up, sent your stuff through the mail, talked and listened to you when you were sad/angry, bought you your meal/movie/drinks last time we met and so many other things I was not appreciated for.

Sixthly, all the threatening emails/messages you sent…if you would have stopped for a second and stopped thinking about yourself for once, think about my feelings. I’ve been through so much these few months…stop being so f****** selfish. Sure, delete me off everything, throw away all the presents I gave you, the letters, the photos and erase all the memories we had. You don’t even have to remember me.

And today, when you purposely called me, you appeared “anonymous” so I would pick up. I’m not interested in talking to you. If I was, I would have talked to you online. How can you call yourself a friend when you have hurt me so much? What have you done to that Bobo I first met? Bring him back!

Don’t you have what you wanted? Don’t you have Bobette? Don’t you have her friends? You didn’t want me in the first place. How am I going to make a difference in your life? I respected your wishes, why can’t you respect mine? I don’t even feel we should even be friends. It’s just too hard. It was always about you. Find yourself another ‘friend’ because I’m not going to be that substitute in your life if anything goes wrong with your relationships.

Hope you have your answer. Stop contacting me anymore unless you are truly sorry…but that doesn’t guarantee any friendship.

___________

This is my second letter, but I think I am in a different place.....


Janelle,

You hated that I spent most my time playing video games, when I wasn't allowed to do much else. Well I rarely touch them now, I'd rather do the things I love to do. Guess you missed out.
You always thought I would leave you, or cheat, and that you couldn't trust me. When I did nothing but show my love for you. You ended up cheating, and when time goes on I hope that doesn't gnaw at you and make you not able to trust anyone else.
You even hated that I had a temper. When we fought we'd yell and scream. It's hard to not get angry at someone projecting what they are doing on me. I never cheated, I never wanted to. Getting accused of it, just showed what you were doing, and worried I would do.

I hope your instant gratification lasts longer. I hope you get over your issues and insecurities you always blamed on me. I hope your happy and you never realize your mistake.

Because I am becoming the man you always wanted, in my own way. I am living a great life now, even if your still on my mind at times. Maybe someday i'll make someone else as happy as you could have been. Maybe not. But either way Janelle, you really missed out.

Ernie

Ps You can beg for honesty all you want, but when you are a liar, you will never believe your getting it.

Dear ____,

I looked at the letter I wrote to you (above in a few posts) two months ago and all I can say is that I was so kind and considerate. Yet, you screwed me over, AGAIN, that following weekend BIGTIME. I played it cool for your sake, but you mistreated me. You didn't even apologize. I guess you're sick and tired of me getting angry all the time because I got so sick and tired of you.

Have a nice life. I hope you regret everything you did and that you lost me forever. I hope you get the courage to admit you were wrong someday, if not to me at least to yourself.

Except by then, I won't care.

Sincerely,
Me

Since everyone's writing a second one...why not?

Dear sneezy's ex:

Why...how are you? How have you been? It's been a while since I've talked to you...but I've been relatively busy. Heard about your new boyfriend...hope that goes well for you. We graduate in 2 months, which means I probably will never see/hear from you ever again...so I wish you the best. Just wanted to let you know, I harbor no ill feelings towards you. I'm not mad at you...or your new boyfriend. Life's life. May we cross each others' paths again down the road. All the best.

Sneezy.

...that is absurdly different than my first one. I tried to make snide comments, but I have none. Only possible thing I can think of is: I heard your boyfriend's a MAJOR cheater...so good luck with that...and yes, the rumor you hear is true...most of your friends are hitting on me. Pretty hard. Sorry.

...yep. No bad feelings towards her. I feel like I got the last laugh out of this. Oh well.

All I can say is WOW! I think this is by far one of the best threads I have read on this site.

What a great idea!

Unfortunately for this thread, I have no exes worth writing a letter to because currentely I am with the first man I ever fell in love with. If we split then I will deffinintely post here! Hopefully not though.

How about for all those of you who are in a relationship and some things about that person makes you tick? There should be a new thread posted here for all things that you don't like about your relationship/lover.' Maybe I'm going to far...?

Dear....

I was the best thing you could have ever had and more...

Me

(To me, that is sufficient.)