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Letters to our exes

Asked Nov 20, 2007, 04:50 PM — 115 Answers
I've been told that urges could be controlled by some Role Playing, so I though I would create this post for all of us. The holidays are upon us and that's going to prove to be a difficult time for most of us here. A lot of us will be tempted to break NC and take us back to square one. In the interests of maitaining NC, Just type here what you feel about your ex in any form you like (letter, text message, I'm, anything you want) it's a good way to get things off your chest and be able to stay on the road to healing. I hope it's something that will be of help

I'm going to start the ball rolling with an e-mail that I have saved in my draft folder to my ex boyfriend. Instead of sending it to him I'm just going to post it here. That way I can say what I need to say without causing any more pain to myself.

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#111

Apr 2, 2009, 06:01 AM
I was in the same situation as you was. He fed me all the lines, he said he card, loved me and wanted me, we even talked about marriage. It was even worse because marriage is big in my religion. When he left me he gave me every excuse, he couldn't handle a relationship, he was in trouble and he didn't want to drag me down, he wanted to be alone. And now? The last words I saw from him was him declaring his love for someone else. I know how it feels to have that one person we love hurt you. I couldn't handle the pain either, I have never experienced anything like it in my life. But it is getting better.

People change, maybe she was honest when she was with you, but she is a different person now, and so are you, but unfortunaly your the one who is suffering whilst she is doing her own thing. Don't give her the satisfaction of dragging you down. Make yourself bigger and better. Overcome her bulls****.

I think your at the stage of anger, lucky for me mine didn't last that long. I can see you like going to the gym, well use your anger in there. These feeling will pass and soon. Chalk it up as an experience, just make sure you learn from it.
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#112

Apr 2, 2009, 09:26 PM
A.

Well, where do I start. From the moment I saw who I knew our future was bright. The way you came into my life was incredible. High school sweethearts and first loves, what else could you ask for. The past 5 years have been the best of my life, and you have helped me become who I am today. I became close with your parents and family. The amazing memories we shared will never be forgotten and you will always have a piece of my heart. After 5 years you have decided that you are in a routine and wanting to see what else is out there, yes this happens because we only know each other. For me, you would have been the world and the only one for me. What hurts me most is that after we broke up, you sat me down and told me how much you loved me, grabbed my hands and we stared into each others eyes. Hearts pounding and the feeling of soul mates where we don't have to say a thing to understand each other. You began to cry and I told you that everything would be okay. We then said our parting lines and held each other one more time. What I don't understand is how you met someone so fast and invited him into your whole life. Yes I called you and told you I was upset and I might have said some things I should'nt have, but the way you handled it was unacceptable, especially since this was on valentines day. The way you made me out to be in order to make the new person look good was uncalled for. I would not wish this pain upon anyone. I did everything for you and I guess this was too much. Two months later I think about you every day. I wish that one day we will find each other again. Yes I am angry, yes I am hurt, but as long as you are happy, I will accept the outcome. You mean the world to me and I will always love you. I know in my heart you know we are to be together, yet feel as though you need to be sure for yourself. I will not wait around because of the pain, but I will be open to life and everything it has to offer. Even after everything and how everyone tries to tell me that there is something better out there for me, I love you forever and a day. Good things happen to good people. So long
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#113

Apr 4, 2009, 12:41 AM
Alejandra, my life feels empty without you. I wish you'd realise that I was the best for you. I miss you a lot and wish you would wake up from this dream you live in, you think is happiness.
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#114

Apr 4, 2009, 12:58 AM
Hey Alice, wutcha doing? Do you even remember who I am and everything we've been through. The times we fought hard for our relationship. Even when we thought it was over things always gotten better. I never knew you were the type that would quit. What happened? Does this new guy really mean that much to you? He just popped out of no where and destroyed our relationship.

Well its been a while now, I'm kind of used to you not being around anymore yet I still love you and miss you. I also know I deserve to be treated better than this. The mean things you 've told me do you really mean it? Is this guy really better than me? Are you really too good for me? Why do you always listen to your friends? Just because they told you they would be disappointed in you if you picked me?

I want you back, and I want things to change but I know it can't so what now? You tell me? Should I really move on with my life without you in it? I want you in it. We were each other's first everything and I want us to be each other's last everything. What about all the promises we made to each other. I guess it never really meant anything to you.

If you can hear me out there, I love you and I want you to be happy even if its not with me but I won't want to live my life without you. If only if we could have our happy ending. Ill be waiting for you to contact me if you love me which I know you do. I can still feel you do because I know we had much more than this. I just hope things get better for us soon no matter what life takes us.
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Apr 4, 2009, 01:30 AM
Hey B----,

How are you doing.SO what happened, you could not call me on birthday in January ? Even though I called you on yours.How long would it have taken to pick you the phone and say hi and happy birtday. After 8 year.Come on really.I heard you called our ex roommate.I know you liked him and told me I needed to be more like me.Well you know what, I am me ,I don't want to be like him.
Tell me this the last time we broke up why did you keep me as a back up.Did I really deserve it?I was there for you when you were scared at 4 in the morning and you would call me I would talk to you for hours until you would go back to sleep.I would get up in the middle of the night to get you your medicine when you were sick.I did all I could Be--- and you know what.I am moving on.That's it .I hope some body does to you what you did to me.
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heartbroke Posts: 163, Reputation: 115
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Apr 23, 2009, 06:40 PM
Thanks for doing me a favor by breaking up with me, I'm having the time of my life. Oh and my last words to you?...Eat sh_t! Who is laughing now!?!?!?!
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